Whew! That was a ride but hopefully looking forward to heading home later today or tomorrow. Surgery went as well as could be expected -- no groin incision ...Read more
Whew! That was a ride but hopefully looking forward to heading home later today or tomorrow. Surgery went as well as could be expected -- no groin incision and the surgeon didn't even need to stop the heart! I had some trouble coming off the breathing tube and struggled with bad nausea until Midday Saturday. Keeping food and water down has done wonders. I'm feeling a little scared to go home, but have been so consistently uncomfortable in these hospital beds and chairs it'll be nice to have my own mattress back!
Jody Adams Glad you are doing well. I hear you on the hospital bed and chairs. I've been restless due to back an ... Read more
Jody Adams Glad you are doing well. I hear you on the hospital bed and chairs. I've been restless due to back and shoulder pain. The bed doesn't help but makes it hurt more. Last night was the best hourly sperts of sleep throughout the nights.
Ellen Leng Great to hear that you're close to getting out of the hospital Maeve!
Phyllis Petersen Great to see things went well! Have a speedy and uneventful recovery!
Amy Steele Good to hear that the surgery went well and you're on the road to recovery. You, Jody and Nancy have ... Read more
Amy Steele Good to hear that the surgery went well and you're on the road to recovery. You, Jody and Nancy have all been on my mind these past few days.
Catie B Congratulations on getting through all that, Maeve. Tough beginning, but I hope it'll be easier sledd ... Read more
Catie B Congratulations on getting through all that, Maeve. Tough beginning, but I hope it'll be easier sledding from here out.
Bob Fessler Congratulations and good luck on your recovery. I didn't know a pulminary valve replacement could be ... Read more
Bob Fessler Congratulations and good luck on your recovery. I didn't know a pulminary valve replacement could be done without stopping the heart. Learn something new every day.
I'm officially a week away from being on the other side of surgery! Pre-ops yesterday were stressful and involved too much waiting, a parade of physicians, ...Read more
I'm officially a week away from being on the other side of surgery! Pre-ops yesterday were stressful and involved too much waiting, a parade of physicians, lab work, an x-ray, and 5 different stops, but I've cleared that hurdle.
Going into this final pre-surgery week, I feel pretty ok. Sometimes, I'm skeptical of how calm I am and worried I'm in denial. I've been trying to take every opportunity I can to do things with my body that bring me joy while basking in the waning summer sun.
The past couple of weeks have also been difficult reminders that life keeps happening, despite my impending OHS. Two weeks ago, one of my close friends/ chosen family disclosed they'd been diagnosed with Leukemia. My partner spent last week in NJ for their Grandma's funeral.
I've been thankful that I will get better and come through this healthier than I've ever been. I know the next month will be a difficult struggle, but at least the problem and solution are straightforward and overwhelmingly successful. For a period a few months ago, I resented my body for betraying me. Recently, the couple times I've found myself gasping for air trying to ride up one of the many hills in Seattle, it's got me excited to see what I can do with my more-able body, the bike rides and hikes I want to take, the places I'll walk during recovery, the different martial arts I'll try. I'm ready for this!
Barbara Laurie Maeve, Besr Regards! Sounds like you've got this and you are motivated!❤️❤️🎉🎉all the be ... Read more
Barbara Laurie Maeve, Besr Regards! Sounds like you've got this and you are motivated!❤️❤️🎉🎉all the best🐾
Corey Sines Keep positive and focused it will help get you through it! Keep in mind that end goal / dream as you ... Read more
Corey Sines Keep positive and focused it will help get you through it! Keep in mind that end goal / dream as you work through your recovery.
Steven Dean It is certainly a strange feeling how life just goes on around you. Enjoy the fact that you are calm ... Read more
Steven Dean It is certainly a strange feeling how life just goes on around you. Enjoy the fact that you are calm and try to keep having fun and living life and look forward to getting back to it when you get to the other side.
Kevin Lee Maeve, sorry to hear about your friend. I can tell you this last month has been crazy for me so I ca ... Read more
Kevin Lee Maeve, sorry to hear about your friend. I can tell you this last month has been crazy for me so I can relate. A few days before my OHS, my Wife's Uncle passed away, two days after I was released from the hospital, My father passed. It helped to keep myself busy. Not only with recovery but just keeping my mind off of the negitive. You have the right idea by keeping your head up. Staying positive and keeping your communication open with your support team will be vital to reaching those bike rides and hikes. Today is exactly one month for me. I am 32 and lucky enough to be hitting the long walks now. Good luck!
Marie Leighton Best wishes and prayers for your surgery next week! Lord, guide the surgeon with your divine wisdom ... Read more
Marie Leighton Best wishes and prayers for your surgery next week! Lord, guide the surgeon with your divine wisdom and give Maeve a peaceful spirit and an easy, complete recovery. Amen.
How soon after surgery (median sternotomy) did folks feel up for short outings ( +/- 1 hr) for things such as grocery shopping, non-cardiac appointments, church, ...Read more
How soon after surgery (median sternotomy) did folks feel up for short outings ( +/- 1 hr) for things such as grocery shopping, non-cardiac appointments, church, social visits, etc?
I'm in the process of setting up my care calendar and trying to anticipate how many weeks out I'll be ready to ask for rides grocery shopping or to see my therapist. If it's helpful to anyone else with an upcoming surgery, I'm using this website to organize meals and other needs: https://www.mealtrain.com/.
Organize meal giving around births, surgeries, illnesses, and group events. Simplify giving and receiving with a free meal sign up.
Maeve Dwyer I know these are the smaller details of the recovery, that things will change and I'll likely play ev ... Read more
Maeve Dwyer I know these are the smaller details of the recovery, that things will change and I'll likely play everything by ear when the time comes, but I'm finding thinking through recovery needs is a helpful processing tool regardless.
the next day I was home I was doing stuff like you are referring.
Juergen Li Maeve - as soon as I was home. It really depends on how you feel but if you have no other complicatio ... Read more
Juergen Li Maeve - as soon as I was home. It really depends on how you feel but if you have no other complications you can ( and should) be active as this will help your lungs, your body and your mind. Mentally prepare for the worst and then enjoy if things turn out to be better. I had the attitude that I was sick before surgery and that my heart was immediately better. This turned out to be the case.
Clare Auten I had a full sternotomy. I could not drive for 4 weeks. The people u worked with organized meals for ... Read more
Clare Auten I had a full sternotomy. I could not drive for 4 weeks. The people u worked with organized meals for Monday, Wednesday and Friday for quite a while. I found every other day was nice because most nights there was tins left over. My husband went back to work on day 10 post op and my 4 (almost 5) year old and I managed while he was gone. We worked together to heat leftovers or get backpacks and lunches together for the "big kids" . I could load the dishwasher but laundry was too heavy. Hope that helps.
Steven Dean I agree with Dan and Juergen. I was able to get out of the house, or having people over, etc. the day ... Read more
Steven Dean I agree with Dan and Juergen. I was able to get out of the house, or having people over, etc. the day after I got home, which was about a week after surgery. I actually drove to DC from Ohio (or rode in the back seat of a car) that day. We stopped at numerous rest stops along the way. It was not bad at all. That said, I couldn't get too far from home on my own since I couldn't walk that far and couldn't drive and had to rely on others. I had a full Sternotomy.
Steven Dean I will add the energy to cook (and do dishes) and other tasks might not be there right when you get h ... Read more
Steven Dean I will add the energy to cook (and do dishes) and other tasks might not be there right when you get home but after a couple days at home I was looking for opportunities to get out of the house.
Meredith Bray Surgery on Wednesday, home on Sunday, out for a short lunch at a nearby diner on Tuesday. Church on d ... Read more
Meredith Bray Surgery on Wednesday, home on Sunday, out for a short lunch at a nearby diner on Tuesday. Church on day 10 after surgery. Then my mother came to visit - hair appointment, manicure, walking at the mall, lunch with a friend, visit my work....it was exhausting!
Steven A Husted if you live alone like i do you will need help to do things that is why i went to a rehab hospital fo ... Read more
Steven A Husted if you live alone like i do you will need help to do things that is why i went to a rehab hospital for two weeks after surgery where they help you get back your strenth and to get up and down stairs then i had a visiting nurse and therapist twice a week for 5 weeks then i started cardio rehab phase 2 after that i was pretty well back to normal my best wishes and prayers are with you
Darlene Smith My first 1 hour plus outing was one week after surgery. I had to take it really slow at that point. ... Read more
Darlene Smith My first 1 hour plus outing was one week after surgery. I had to take it really slow at that point. I didn't go grocery shopping until about 3 weeks out because of all the walking. But going out to lunch or doing something that didn't require a lot of exertion was fine.
Surgery on Tuesday morning, released Friday morning. Short outing the following Monday (ate lunch wit ... Read more
Surgery on Tuesday morning, released Friday morning. Short outing the following Monday (ate lunch with my son at school and went to Kroger with my mom), but was exhausted afterwards.
Five weeks from now at this time I'll be into my first (and hopefully only!) night in the ICU. For a surgery that's been a shadowy looming figure in my future ...Read more
Five weeks from now at this time I'll be into my first (and hopefully only!) night in the ICU. For a surgery that's been a shadowy looming figure in my future for years, I've been struggling with this intermediate stage -- having a surgery that's still far enough away to not feel 'soon', When is it no longer too early to prepare?
In 2008 I was told I'd need to have my pulmonary valve replaced in 5 to 10 years. Yearly ultrasounds, confirmed by a stress test and MRI, indicated steadily increasing leakage, a common problem for people who've undergone 'complete' repair for Tetrology of Fallot in infancy. This January I was told '5 to 10 years' was now but I couldn't be referred to the surgical conference until I'd had surgery for an unrelated infection. So I've been sitting on this anticipated late summer/ early fall OHS for almost 7 months, had more than enough time to experience and process the initial stages of shock, fear, hedonism, mourning, nihilism, and growing acceptance. Over the last half a year I've come to appreciate how optimally timed in my life this is (all things considering), excitement for my heart to work well for the first time in my life, and treat it as a chance for deep self-reflection.
Now my surgery date suddenly feels close. My parents just booked plane tickets and lodging to fly out to Seattle to support me through my first number of days home from the hospital. I have a growing list of things to do before September 22: set up a care calendar/ meal train for recovery assistance needs, ask for help (this one's real hard for me), extend my health insurance, pay bills, move dishes and other essential items to places I can reach without reaching, take a short camping/ roadtrip, acquire a good back pillow, finish my advance directive, temporarily suspend my YMCA membership, catch up on emails, visit the dentist, fix my breaks, etc. I've spent the last couple months telling myself it's too soon to stress about surgery preparations. I'm pretty sure it's no longer too soon but that also means mentally and emotionally wrestling with the reality of surgery in a way I haven't had to yet.
When did y'all start to put your affairs in order, so to speak?
Darlene Smith I'm probably the worst person to post here. I had a consult with a surgeon, and scheduled the surger ... Read more
Darlene Smith I'm probably the worst person to post here. I had a consult with a surgeon, and scheduled the surgery 6 weeks after the consult. I had a list of things to do and did a fraction of them. I decided the house would run just fine and I wasn't going to stress over a to do list. My husband and daughter managed to do the critical things like paying bills and feeding the dogs. But other tasks didn't get done and in the long run it didn't matter. So I started right after scheduling the surgery, but it sounds like you are off to a really good start and have taken care of many things already!
Corey Sines I didn't do much to prepare for the first Surgery, didn't really think about it much then and didn't ... Read more
Corey Sines I didn't do much to prepare for the first Surgery, didn't really think about it much then and didn't know what to expect. Ever since that surgery however, i have maxed all life insurance, put together charts for my wife on where all sources of income would come (SSA, my retirement, etc.). prepared things (letters /videos) for my kids just in case. I guess living with many other people I take for granted someone waiting on me and caring for me 24/7 while I am unable to do it myself, but thinking of child care and such has been part of the planning. Hopefully, all dying plans are for naught, odds are both of will pull through fine. ;-)
Steven Dean I didn't do all that much to get my personal affairs in order. A short 'vacation' before is nice and ... Read more
Steven Dean I didn't do all that much to get my personal affairs in order. A short 'vacation' before is nice and make sure you get your health insurance taken care of. You will have plenty of time to catch up on emails when you get out of the hospital. I think the best thing you can do (other than the health insurance and things you need to do like the dentist) is to enjoy yourself, especially things you will not be able to do for a couple months after.
Maeve Dwyer Thank you all for the comments! Steven, you've especially inspired me to take a swim in the lake as m ... Read more
Maeve Dwyer Thank you all for the comments! Steven, you've especially inspired me to take a swim in the lake as many days as possible between now and September 22!