Hello all hope everyone it doing well. I have not been on here in a while. In April 2019 i had open heart surgery for mitral regurgitation and have been doing ...Read more
Hello all hope everyone it doing well. I have not been on here in a while. In April 2019 i had open heart surgery for mitral regurgitation and have been doing ok with my mechanical valve. After surgery my syptoms continued and in February i was diagnosed with moderate aortic stenosis. i am going in a couple of weeks for another echo to see how all is going. lately i have been having pain from my sternal wires. I switched cardiologist a few months ago, he added flecanide and my afib has decreased.
Marie Myers I hope you get some good news from your upcoming echo. It must be very disappointing to be looking at ... Read more
Marie Myers I hope you get some good news from your upcoming echo. It must be very disappointing to be looking at more valve issues. Please keep us posted.
Hi all, i am nine months post surgery to replace my mitral valve with a mechanical valve. So long story short, hopefully lol.....I returned to work 9 weeks ...Read more
Hi all, i am nine months post surgery to replace my mitral valve with a mechanical valve. So long story short, hopefully lol.....I returned to work 9 weeks after surgery. 10 weeks later i was laid off. (Coincidence????) The last 4 months i have been looking with no luck. I recently had a very promising interview. I have people telling me DO NOT tell the employer that i had open heart surgery (said i will never get hired) and if i get the job to limit my appointments and dont ever speak about it. I feel this is deceptive and how could i NEVER speak about such a major event in my life? Anyone with a story similar?
Robert Osmachenko That is terrible. Did they give you a solid reason for the layoff and how are you coping with this t ... Read more
Robert Osmachenko That is terrible. Did they give you a solid reason for the layoff and how are you coping with this turn of events? Perhaps the advice of an employment specialist could shed some clarity on revealing/discussing your surgery for your future job prospects. Wishing you luck.
Rose Madura Oh my. That is awful. I would think that now that you've had the surgery, you are in better health. ... Read more
Rose Madura Oh my. That is awful. I would think that now that you've had the surgery, you are in better health. I don't know, I'm always for honesty. And many companies require physicals and besides that, I'm not sure I'd want to work for a company that would feel that way. But the advice of talking to an HR specialist for guidance is a good one.
Susan Lynn Suzanne - How many people were laid off at your company at the time you were let go? Did you sign a ... Read more
Susan Lynn Suzanne - How many people were laid off at your company at the time you were let go? Did you sign a General Release Agreement in exchange for a severance payment? This may be a case of unlawful discrimination.
I strongly suggest that prospective applicants and employees refrain from discussing anything that isn't job-related during interviews or at work. While it is unlawful to discriminate against employees for many protected classifications, it can be difficult to prove even if you have been victimized. Sometimes the adverse actions are significant, like failing to get hired or getting fired, other times more subtle, like being bypassed for a promotion or assignment of developmental work. It's best to keep your private life and health history to yourself. I wish I had a better answer for you. The world of work is a lot of things, but fair isn't one of them.
Marie Myers I am sorry you have had a rough road. If asked about health history, I would be truthful about it. Bu ... Read more
Marie Myers I am sorry you have had a rough road. If asked about health history, I would be truthful about it. But if no one asks about it, I just would not mention it. Hope you find something soon!
Suzanne Lunsford Thank you everyone for the responses, it gives me some food for thought. When they laid me off I was ... Read more
Suzanne Lunsford Thank you everyone for the responses, it gives me some food for thought. When they laid me off I was told they did away with my position. (I was in management) and received zero severance even after 14.5 years with the company. I was the only one laid off that day but the previous week they laid off 5 others.
Susan Lynn Suzanne - Usually, isolated position eliminations can be forms of discrimination veiled in a very t ... Read more
Susan Lynn Suzanne - Usually, isolated position eliminations can be forms of discrimination veiled in a very thin disguise. Since you didn't sign a General Release Agreement and receive and severance compensation for doing so, then you didn't relinquish your right to pursue legal action against your employer. It might be worth a call to an employment attorney to discuss your situation. If a
new hire replaces you in your old job in the next few months, that would also strengthen your case that your job loss was not a position elimination. Best of luck to you! ❤
Yesterday I received a release to return to work, in 2 weeks. they do not want me lifting more than 10 lbs for 8 more weeks due to pain, swelling and just wanting ...Read more
Yesterday I received a release to return to work, in 2 weeks. they do not want me lifting more than 10 lbs for 8 more weeks due to pain, swelling and just wanting everything to heal better. Waiting to see if my job will accommodate the light duty. Anyone else nervous about returning to work?
I now have a mechanical valve so I am on warfarin and have been approved for home INR testing. They called to tell me that it would cost $90 every 4 times I test with my insurance. Averages $22.50 per test. For anyone else doing home testing does that sound about right? I was surprised at the cost.
Mike Roskowinski Suzanne sorry to hear that you have so much pain still. I also want to do the home INR tests but have ... Read more
Mike Roskowinski Suzanne sorry to hear that you have so much pain still. I also want to do the home INR tests but have not looked into the cost. To me that cost sounds cheaper than going into the doctor to get it done and also you can do it on your own time and not needing to go to the clinic.
April 18, 2019 i had OHS. I Received an on x mechanical mitral valve, atrial appendage closure and removal of thickened heart muscle. I spent 3 days in cvicu ...Read more
April 18, 2019 i had OHS. I Received an on x mechanical mitral valve, atrial appendage closure and removal of thickened heart muscle. I spent 3 days in cvicu and total of 13 days in hospital due to low blood pressure, high traponin levels and could not get INR into a range they wanted me. I am 48 years old and having a rough time. Still having a lot of chest pain. With activity a portion of my incision as well as right side of chest will swell and get very painful, with sharp take my breath away pains. My activity has been limited more than i anticipated due to the pain, swelling and fatigue.(tylenol for pain) I do not sleep more than a few hours at night and have AFIB. I am on metoprolol but can only take it if my BP systolic is over 100. My blood pressure is usually too low to take it. (pre surgery i had high blood pressure post surgery low pressure) i have had 1 session of cardiac rehab and will be going 3 x week. Hopefully that will help with some of this as well as the bouts of crying. i am very surprised by some unexpected things....people for one. They see the incision and how well it has healed and think i should be back to normal already. I am also surprised by the amount of mental stress. The constant worry every time your heart does a weird flutter or thump, the worry of when i will return to work, will i ever feel good enough to enjoy life and will i ever get used to being able to hear the ticking of my new valve. Sorry for the long post, i signed up before surgery but with the craziness before and after surgery i finally got to a point where i realize i need to connect with others that have been through this experience.
Catie B Hi Suzanne! I'm so glad you posted and I hope that connecting here will help you feel less alone. I'm ... Read more
Catie B Hi Suzanne! I'm so glad you posted and I hope that connecting here will help you feel less alone. I'm so sorry you're suffering. Cardiac rehab is an excellent program and I hope the staff at yours will be as encouraging at they were where I attended. Not driving felt so confining and exercising with supervision and support certainly helped!
Has your INR settled down?
Sleep can be a tough area for awhile and soreness can extend in so many directions. My reclining sofa got a lot of use! I hope sleep starts coming more easily for you soon.
Do they have you on amiodarone for the Afib? Usually, if it starts after surgery, it resolves in a few weeks. I ended up seeing an electrocardiologist for awhile. I found him very reassuring about my low heart rate and BP; I stayed on the lowest possible dose of Metoprolol for several months and was able to stop the Amiodarone about 3 months after surgery.
Hearts go through a lot of changes with surgery. I felt like mine was beating super hard for weeks and it was very distracting when I would lie down. Eventually, it felt more normal. Hopefully before long, your valve won't bring so much anxiety after you've had some time to get used to the new sound and sensations.
It's a very emotional thing to go through. All the anxiety leading up to surgery and not having walked through recovery before--it's all very stressful. Be gentle with yourself; tears are understandable, as are some depressed feelings. Keep taking care of you. You're adjusting to a lot of things. Hope you will keep us posted on your journey.
Marie Myers Catie says it well. Open heart surgery is a huge thing to go through, and the body and mind need time ... Read more
Marie Myers Catie says it well. Open heart surgery is a huge thing to go through, and the body and mind need time to heal and process everything. I felt that anxiety about "what is going to happen next" for almost a year. I am still a little more nervous about doctor visits even now at 2 years post op.. But it does get better. Ask questions, read some of the journals here, and know that what you are going through is pretty normal. Not fun, but normal.. I hope you will find some reassurance here.
Mava Reif I'm so glad you are connecting with others here, because OHS is so very overwhelming. Pain, anxiety, ... Read more
Mava Reif I'm so glad you are connecting with others here, because OHS is so very overwhelming. Pain, anxiety, fear of things you never worried about before! As others posted above, just know you are normal & others are going through what you are experiencing now. Sometimes reading posts is encouraging, but other times it can lead to comparing ourselves with someone who is doing better than we are. This can be crushing to our spirit. If you are having chest pain with activity, ease back. My sternum has taken longer to heal than some others, with pain & swelling. Be kind to yourself! Healing takes far longer than the outside appearances, & is an individual process. Little by little you will feel more like yourself. God bless you!
Rita Savelis Yeah, I hear you, Suzanne, on people thinking you should be back to "normal" quickly. There can be a ... Read more
Rita Savelis Yeah, I hear you, Suzanne, on people thinking you should be back to "normal" quickly. There can be a feeling that if surgery is over and was "successful" then everything is back to normal and you are better than ever and fixed. Whatever normal might be it takes a long time and then it's a new normal. It's hard. I appreciate honest posts like yours because they express what many feel. There is a lot to adjust to, many side effects and repercussions to your body and soul. Working through them, getting truly better takes time and is an up and down road. Everyone's experience is singular. Keep writing. And take care.
Shannon Gray Suzannne, so many things you wrote resonate with me and I thank you for the courage it took to put it ... Read more
Shannon Gray Suzannne, so many things you wrote resonate with me and I thank you for the courage it took to put it out there. I have mentioned before that the roller coaster leading up to surgery is nothing in comparison to the depth of emotions after surgery. It is hard, but you are taking excellent steps to find support. Keep writing and take gentle care of yourself.
Joy Vera Glad you've joined this community as I feel you will find support, kindness & the kind of understandi ... Read more
Joy Vera Glad you've joined this community as I feel you will find support, kindness & the kind of understanding that only comes from someone who's been there. Things will improve but it takes time, sometimes more time that we'd hoped. I'll look forward to reading how your recovery is progressing & I wish you the best.
Marjorie Murphy Suzanne
What you are feeling I can very well relate to. It has been almost 9 months since I had my ... Read more
Marjorie Murphy Suzanne
What you are feeling I can very well relate to. It has been almost 9 months since I had my aortic and mitral valve replaced. I would say for at least 3 months after surgery I did not sleep more than 3 hours a night. Panic attacks and anxiety were horrible. My cardiologist said PTSD was very common after major surgery. People with PTSD are subconsiously on guard at all times in case they need to fight or flight. The adrenaline builds up during the day and then by night the anxiety startts. I am getting better. I stared going to a therapist that specializes in PTSD. It has helped tremendously. Now I am sleeping a lot better. Also I am taking one Ativan before bed and that helps. I am still 'on guard' for the bottom to fall out. You will be better. After all you have been thru. Your body just need s to heal at its own pace. Prayers at night also help. God bless you and hang in there.
Meredith Bray Hi Suzanne, I'm so glad you posted here! I'm optimistic that the rehab will help you emotionally. Eve ... Read more
Meredith Bray Hi Suzanne, I'm so glad you posted here! I'm optimistic that the rehab will help you emotionally. Everyone deals with surgery in different ways, and I know I felt a whole lot better about everything once I started with rehab. It took me a long time to get in to a regular sleep pattern - maybe 2 months? And I still have a tough time if I'm disrupted. You will return to work, you will feel good enough to enjoy life - it all takes time. It's ok! One of the best things I learned was to stand up straight - like a president or a supermodel. It felt so good to be straight up - I hadn't realized how much I was hunching over to "protect" my chest. I also spent a lot of time in my recliner with my travel pillow, so my body could use my energy to heal without worrying about rolling over or my head lolling about while I was napping.
I have gotten used to my ticking over the years, and I still feel the occasional flutter, but they are fewer and farther between as time goes by. I also almost always felt better after posting on this site and/or reading other's posts. You are not alone - we get it!
Meredith
Holiday, FL
Mike Roskowinski Suzanne. I am 3 weeks post op and I totally understand how you feel. Everything is different right no ... Read more
Mike Roskowinski Suzanne. I am 3 weeks post op and I totally understand how you feel. Everything is different right now and so much to get used to. I have been doing great with most things but the high heart rate and thumping of the heart can be disturbing and scary. It is great to be in recovery but also a lot of different feelings go with the new normal.
Susan Lynn Suzanne - I am sorry to read about your ongoing challenges. Patience is so critical in this process. ... Read more
Susan Lynn Suzanne - I am sorry to read about your ongoing challenges. Patience is so critical in this process. For many of us, we haven't been down for more than a week or two with prior illnesses or even other types of surgeries. For that reason, we often greatly underestimate the time frame involved in getting back to normal. The drugs that are designed to facilitate healing are not without their own side effects, too. All I can say is you will improve and get back to your life. There are many stories of heart warriors who have endured incredible challenges and have rebounded with great success. That's why this site can be so inspiring! You'll get there, too! All the best!
Suzanne Lunsford thank you to everyone for your comments. I feels great to connect with others that understand and/or ... Read more
Suzanne Lunsford thank you to everyone for your comments. I feels great to connect with others that understand and/or struggling with some of the same issues i am having. It helps me feel better to know a lot of what i am going through is "normal". My thoughts and prayers are with all of you!
Dan Baltazor You got this, hang in there. At 5 weeks post op there is still a lot of recovery going on. Big mark ... Read more
Dan Baltazor You got this, hang in there. At 5 weeks post op there is still a lot of recovery going on. Big markers for me were 3 months post op and then again at 6 months post op. Keep going, it's not easy, just keep going. I still have worry and anxiety but it is improving.
Rose Madura Yes, you will definitely get help here. It sound all very familiar. I had a myriad of complications ... Read more
Rose Madura Yes, you will definitely get help here. It sound all very familiar. I had a myriad of complications but in the end, the doctors figured it out and all is well now. Take care and keep us posted.