I've known of my heart murmur since I was a young child. When I would go to my primary care physician, if she or he had residents, they would all listen to ...Read more
I've known of my heart murmur since I was a young child. When I would go to my primary care physician, if she or he had residents, they would all listen to my heart in order to hear the murmur. In October of 2015, I went to the ED concerned I was having a heart attack. Thankfully, (I guess?) it was actually a-fib. At this time, I was told that I have a bicuspid aortic valve, which had been causing the murmur. Over the course of two years, I saw a cardiologist in my hometown (more like saw his PA often, and him rarely).
I was then introduced to a doctor who specialized in cardiac ablation surgery. I had the procedure and for the most part, my a-fib has not returned. (There are times I've felt like maybe it's starting, but a quick cough and it immediately feels as if my heart returns to it's regular sinus rhythm).
After the surgery, my aortic root measured 3.8 cm in diameter and I was told that it would need to be monitored as it would likely grow in size. I had hoped it would take longer, but over the last two years it has grown to 5.2 cm and it was finally given a name - ascending aortic aneurysm. After researching, I've requested referrals to three surgeons in order to see who will be a good fit.
When I was given the diagnosis a few days ago, I immediately began looking around the internet to find out what all of this would entail. Of course, I ran across the Swedish study and read the overviews and what I came out with shocked and scared me. I'm 50 years old, and after a valve replacement surgery, I could potentially expect to live another 10 years. I spent most of that day in shock, sometimes crying, sometimes just in a fog.
For all intents and purposes, 2021 was simply continuing along 2020's awful path. 2020 had seen lock down for the good part of the year, learning to work remotely (I work full time for a University), trying to manage new ways to support the business we'd just bought in November of 2019 - switching things over to online purchases and shutting down for 6 weeks then trying to regain business (my wife and I own a paint and sip/ceramics business - quite literally one of the most "social" businesses one could own in the middle of a pandemic that requires less social and more distance).
The new year came and I had hope. I cried when the first UPS and FedEx trucks carried loads of the new vaccine, knowing that there was finally a light at the end of this dark and awful tunnel. Then on January 28, 2021, my world crashed around me when my son passed away at the age of 26. I won't spend much time on that because I'm simply unable to do so.
And finally, the news of my heart. After my son died, my heart had felt shattered. Now, I knew that it was, quite literally, broken.
The thought of only living another 10 years shook me deeply. 60 years old. I wouldn't even be of retirement age! So I sat with my wife, talked about quitting my job and pulling all of my money from retirement so that we could spend that ten years making as many memories as possible, checking off bucket list items became much more important than working to make money. Checking to ensure that life insurance was in place for the next ten years, and finally, calling an attorney in order to set a time to set up a will - something we both knew was long overdue.
Then I came across this site. I began reading. There was a glimmer of hope. I saw the article about Arnie and his 3rd surgery to re-replace his valve and how well he was doing. I saw posts from others who'd lived beyond that 10 year mark. I saw Adam's story and now I'm reading through many of the stories here in the community area. My hope is that this will be a new lease on life. I know that without a valve repair or replacement and repair of my aorta, my life expectancy will be pretty short. So as I begin this journey, I'm thankful to have found this site, because it gives me some hope. You all give me hope. Hope that I'll have the best years to come with my wife. With my daughters and my two stepsons and with my amazing granddaughter. (Yes, that's her in my photo. :) ) I have hope that I can begin the process of getting my body into shape for this surgery, and continuing to take care of this body after the surgery.
One thing remains the same. I glimpsed into a chasm of despair when I began this journey and I made a decision to live life for the 10 years I hoped I might get post procedure. The hope I've once again found after reading the stories and articles on this site has not changed this. Once the proper course of action is decided upon with the appropriate surgeon and his/her team and once the procedure is finished and I am on the path to recovery - I am going to live life and make memories whether it be for 10 years, 15 years, 20 years or even more.
The lesson I was shown when my son died was that life is too short and now this lesson has been burned into my soul. Dance to the music with no regard to what others may think. Eat the food. Drink the drinks. Make the memories.
Thanks for reading.
Alex Hunt Great post. I feel very similar. I am trying to make the most of my final 6 weeks pre-op and then h ... Read more
Alex Hunt Great post. I feel very similar. I am trying to make the most of my final 6 weeks pre-op and then hopefully the decade or so after! I'm also planning on retiring outrageously early.
Peter Linn Hello Neal. While the diagnosis and procedure is certainly frightening (believe me I am right there ... Read more
Peter Linn Hello Neal. While the diagnosis and procedure is certainly frightening (believe me I am right there with you on the fear of the procedure and recovery ), the outcomes are actually very good. Both surgeons I have met with so far expect a normal lifespan afterwards. And, I have found recent studies supporting this. Personally my fear is the journey, not the longer term outcome. There is no doubt my outlook on things has changed. And, I have good and bad days. There is far more than a glimmer of hope, there is an expectation of success.
Deena Elani Hi Neal- enough for you! You’ve been through simply enough. Let’s turn it around. For starters, ... Read more
Deena Elani Hi Neal- enough for you! You’ve been through simply enough. Let’s turn it around. For starters, let heart warriors chime-in regarding life expectancy. Most of the research shows much greater than 10 years. Calling all warriors that have had Neal’s issue to tell him like it is!!!!!
Mike Tirrell Neal, Great post. I know exactly what you are feeling regarding the life expectancy data. Have you ... Read more
Mike Tirrell Neal, Great post. I know exactly what you are feeling regarding the life expectancy data. Have you read up on the Ross procedure? I would encourage you to watch Adam's webinar with Dr. Paul Stelzer and Dr. Ismail El-Hamamsy regarding the benefits. If nothing else, it is good to know your options and these two gentlemen are known worldwide as two of the best. Best wishes to you and your family. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zz_QmKMhPDs&t=2561s
https://www.Heart-Valve-Surgery.com - For patients with aortic stenosis, aortic regurgitation and bicuspid aortic valves, the Ross Procedure provides many p...
Rose Madura I had a bicuspid aortic valve from birth and a heart murmur known from age 7. I also had rheumatic f ... Read more
Rose Madura I had a bicuspid aortic valve from birth and a heart murmur known from age 7. I also had rheumatic fever at age 5 which damaged it more. I always knew I needed surgery and over the years I developed an aneurysm. So at age 59, I had OHS and now I feel great. I did have some complications for which I was very symptomatic, but the doctors knew what to do and all is well today. I got a tissue valve and anticipate that at some point in the future, I'll need a TAVR. I was going to retire in June of 2017 but in April of same year when I found out I needed surgery, I retired then. Retirement is great. Enjoy it and do your bucket list! Please keep us posted on your journey.
Mike Tirrell Also, I would encourage you to watch the entire video, it is an hour well spent in my opinion. I fin ... Read more
Mike Tirrell Also, I would encourage you to watch the entire video, it is an hour well spent in my opinion. I find both doctors to be very easy to listen to. If however you would like just the long term survival info, go to 26:19.
Martin Smith Neal, Thank you for sharing this. I am very sorry to learn of the recent death of your son.
For proce ... Read more
Martin Smith Neal, Thank you for sharing this. I am very sorry to learn of the recent death of your son.
For procedures I was given the option in 2019 of undergoing a Ross procedure. I had the operation at my home town hospital in September 2020 and, so far, am happy with the results. The Ross might be an option for you, too. Best wishes.
Neal Wollenberg Thank you to everyone who has responded. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed by this amazing community. I'v ... Read more
Neal Wollenberg Thank you to everyone who has responded. I'm feeling a bit overwhelmed by this amazing community. I've read one of the articles about the Ross procedure. I'll be watching more videos. But overall, thank you for this generous outpouring of support and well-wishes. This is the second club I've become a member of this year that sucks... but in which the other members of said club are amazing. <3
Susan Lynn Neal - I am so sorry to read about your son's passing. I can't imagine your situation.
Susan Lynn Neal - I am so sorry to read about your son's passing. I can't imagine your situation.
There is a lot of life to be lived for you with your family. If you get any common themes from this website - We were all scared. We made decisions to move forward with surgery. We came out the other side better than we anticipated.
Heart surgery has come a long way. The procedures are refined, the surgeons and their teams are knowledgeable and committed, and the nurses in the CICU have recovery down to a science. You'll be surprised how streamlined the entire process is - you'll be in check-in one minute and back home snoozing in your favorite chair before you know it. It's a minimal investment of your time for a great long-term result.
We did it - YOU can, too! You've got this! ❤
Debra Keife Hi Neal. Your story breaks my heart. I have had a heart murmur since childhood and now have learned I ... Read more
Debra Keife Hi Neal. Your story breaks my heart. I have had a heart murmur since childhood and now have learned I was born with a bicuspid aortic valve as well. I am 61 now and had started having some symptoms. After testing the results showed a 4.2 ascending aortic aneurysm and severe aortic stenosis. I will be getting a bovine vale replacement on the 22nd along with repair of the aneurysm. The surgeon is doing a partial sternotomy, which is much less invasive. My surgeon said the valve could last 20+ years but if it needs to be replaced, it is simply done through the groin. Our life expectancy is not a short term diagnosis with surgery and repair. I will have to have a ct scan every year to make sure the aneurysm does not get any larger. I have found an amazing surgeon here in South Florida. His partner did my husbands Open heart 9 years ago and he is still kicking!! I know the stress and anxiety involved with this, believe me. As it gets closer for me, I am now feeling a calmness I had not felt before. You will be great and live a healthy long life. Good luck
Holly Wale Neal - thanks for sharing your story. I am so glad you found this site and have hope!
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For procedures I was given the option in 2019 of undergoing a Ross procedure. I had the operation at my home town hospital in September 2020 and, so far, am happy with the results. The Ross might be an option for you, too. Best wishes.
There is a ... Read more
There is a lot of life to be lived for you with your family. If you get any common themes from this website - We were all scared. We made decisions to move forward with surgery. We came out the other side better than we anticipated.
Heart surgery has come a long way. The procedures are refined, the surgeons and their teams are knowledgeable and committed, and the nurses in the CICU have recovery down to a science. You'll be surprised how streamlined the entire process is - you'll be in check-in one minute and back home snoozing in your favorite chair before you know it. It's a minimal investment of your time for a great long-term result.
We did it - YOU can, too! You've got this! ❤