Today marks 9 weeks and I feel fantastic. Been in cardiac rehab for the past month & it's made a huge difference. I hiked 4 miles on Sunday with no issues, ...Read more
Today marks 9 weeks and I feel fantastic. Been in cardiac rehab for the past month & it's made a huge difference. I hiked 4 miles on Sunday with no issues, I really have NO issues. Even my fingernails are clear for the first time in a decade, they were always blue/purple. I'm only taking one baby Aspirin & Metoprolol daily. Life is Grand, Open heart surgery is mind blown-amazing, I can't believe I feel this good. I wish this feeling for everyone xoxo.
Phyllis Petersen Fantastic! Cardiac rehab can really help a lot, especially since there's less fear when someone else ... Read more
Phyllis Petersen Fantastic! Cardiac rehab can really help a lot, especially since there's less fear when someone else is calling the shots. Wishing you continued success!
Bob Fessler That's great news! I also may be having Dr. Verrier replace my valve so it's good to hear a success ... Read more
Bob Fessler That's great news! I also may be having Dr. Verrier replace my valve so it's good to hear a success story.
Today is had my first Echo since surgery 7 weeks ago, my first cardiology follow up and a pacemaker follow up, phew!
My echo looks "prefect!", my cardiologist ...Read more
Today is had my first Echo since surgery 7 weeks ago, my first cardiology follow up and a pacemaker follow up, phew!
My echo looks "prefect!", my cardiologist is happy with everything and everyway that I look.
And as for the pacemaker nurse, well as she placed that doo-dad in the picture over the site and brought up my heart rhythm, she yelled, because.. drum roll.....
I NO LONGER HAVE 3RD DEGREE HEART BLOCK (Complete Heart Block). This is a RARE occurrence.
They had me in the hospital post surgery for 7 days hoping my natural heart rhythm would return, when it didn't they surgically implanted the pace maker and I was discharged. now almost 2 months post op, my heart (last Saturday) decided to flip the switch back on and now my pacemaker will be dusting in the left side of my chest.
I couldn't be happier, i'm still in an excited shock at today's results. Tomorrow is the end of my 3rd week of cardiac rehab & I plan on going at it strong.
Sally Strand That is so encouraging, Melissa am very happy for you!
Saw my surgeon for my first follow up yesterday. He's very happy with how the incision looks & gave me a tough love speech to start doing everything I normally ...Read more
Saw my surgeon for my first follow up yesterday. He's very happy with how the incision looks & gave me a tough love speech to start doing everything I normally would on my own. He also wants me to ignore the discharge instructions about sternal precautions - 6 weeks was the normal decades ago but not now. So Today, I showered on my own for once (on my shower chair) and I- wait for it.... Shaved my legs & underarms. WOW. it's only been 3 weeks.
Thank you everyone! I couldn't get access to this site correctly on my cell phone the entire time I was in the hospital. The pig ears are for my...New 23MM ...Read more
Thank you everyone! I couldn't get access to this site correctly on my cell phone the entire time I was in the hospital. The pig ears are for my...New 23MM Pig Valve! the other scar is my new pace maker, I'm now truly bionic. I'm 5 days home now, it's VERY ROUGH GOING. I'm not going to lie, i'm miserable.
First of all, UW discharged me after 9 days in the hospital before I had a bowel movement so on day 10 when I woke up at home I had a severe fecal impaction. My husband had to call 911 because I was on the floor of the bathroom screaming in pain, the ER didn't give me any meds to numb that area down there, the doc just dove in & I just SCREAMED. Still 4 days later & I cry when I have a bowel movement, it hurts so so bad - its either scratched or enflamed still- I've been back to an urgent care for more help but they gave me the same cream and I still have the same issue, just pain and tears. I think i'd be doing a lot better with everything else if I didn't have this pain down there.
I'm doing my daily arm exercises, walking around inside my house (Seattle weather doesn't allow any time outside, it just loves to rain lol).
In Any Case, here's my story:
I had a bioprosthetic valve mismatch from my first minimally invasive surgery 10 years ago-19mm cow aortic valve which was way too small. My surgeon enlarged my aortic root and aortic valve to fit a 23mm pig valve. After surgery my heart was not communicating with itself from the top chambers to the bottom, my heart rate never rose above 50, they would try to walk me but i'd collapse. So they waited a week to see if my heart would regain communication & then I had pace maker placement surgery. Two days after that, I went home. Tomorrow is my first follow up with my surgeon and the pace maker team.
This is not easy. This sucks. But I know I will get through it. We all get through this. I'm grateful for you all and all your comments xoxoxo
Marie Myers If you are not already on stool softeners, you need to start. It will help everything pass easier. Al ... Read more
Marie Myers If you are not already on stool softeners, you need to start. It will help everything pass easier. Also, a dose of Milk Of Magnesia can really provide overnight relief. Don't forget to eat plenty of fruit and veggies to provide fiber!
Melissa Alfred I'm on stool softeners and prunes and lots of fruit. I have No problem going now, it's the pain that ... Read more
Melissa Alfred I'm on stool softeners and prunes and lots of fruit. I have No problem going now, it's the pain that accompanies it.
I just received a very important question from Dahlia about constipation and heart surgery. She writes, "Adam - I'm quite embarrassed to be writing you about
Melissa Alfred I don't have constipation, I'm on stool softeners & everything flows it's the pain coming out since ... Read more
Melissa Alfred I don't have constipation, I'm on stool softeners & everything flows it's the pain coming out since the impaction.
Marie Myers It will take some time for everything to heal and get back to normal. Because of the severe constipat ... Read more
Marie Myers It will take some time for everything to heal and get back to normal. Because of the severe constipation, you may have had a flare up of hemorrhoids, even if you never had them before.It will take time for the inflammation to subside.
Catie B Melissa, I'm so sorry they didn't take better care to keep this from happening. Having had fissures i ... Read more
Catie B Melissa, I'm so sorry they didn't take better care to keep this from happening. Having had fissures in the past, I can only imagine the pain you're having when you go. Even small tears in that sensitive area are excruciating. I sure hope things heal up well and quickly for you--you've been through more than enough.
Rita Savelis Oh, gosh, so sorry to hear what you've been through. You certainly did not deserve any more pain afte ... Read more
Rita Savelis Oh, gosh, so sorry to hear what you've been through. You certainly did not deserve any more pain after OHS plus a pacemaker implantation....
Barbara Wood Sorry it's been so tough Melissa! But it sounds like your attitude is excellent & those pig ears are ... Read more
Barbara Wood Sorry it's been so tough Melissa! But it sounds like your attitude is excellent & those pig ears are pretty adorable...hope you feel better soon!
Enrique K Melissa, hope things get better for you. Sending you good vibes and prayers!
Laura Jacobs Melissa, your experience sounds like torture...I cannot understand why the nurses were not on top of ... Read more
Laura Jacobs Melissa, your experience sounds like torture...I cannot understand why the nurses were not on top of this problem well before you left the hospital. I hope you are healing well now.
Tomorrow morning is the big day! Spent the evening walking around the U district of Seattle, eating candy in our hotel room & playing a mean game of ping ...Read more
Tomorrow morning is the big day! Spent the evening walking around the U district of Seattle, eating candy in our hotel room & playing a mean game of ping pong. I feel like it's just a other day, and I hope this laid back attitude continues tomorrow when I go in. Thank you to everyone & all your stories and support. I can't wait to update you all of my progress xoxo
Sue Sanchez Grela Keeping you and your surgery team in prayer Melissa! You are all in God's hands!
Henry Brouwer Prayer for you Melissa. I am just headed to the hospital myself.
Civita Fahey best wishes Melissa for a successful outcome
Belinda Marsaw I love your fight! My thoughts and prayers are with you xoxo
Terrie Hodges Melissa...thinking of you this morning and happy you are close to being in recovery mode now...lookin ... Read more
Terrie Hodges Melissa...thinking of you this morning and happy you are close to being in recovery mode now...looking forward to your posts and more pics of kitty baby💟
Pat Bluemel I just saw this! Melissa, you should be waking up about now. Dr. Verrier did my fancy valve work. ... Read more
Pat Bluemel I just saw this! Melissa, you should be waking up about now. Dr. Verrier did my fancy valve work. You are in good hands!!! I hope you move quickly from ICU to step/down 5NE in good time. There are some great nurses that will be helping you along.
Melissa Alfred Yes Pat I moved down to 5N! everyone was fabulous. thank you xoxoxo I go back for my follow up with ... Read more
Melissa Alfred Yes Pat I moved down to 5N! everyone was fabulous. thank you xoxoxo I go back for my follow up with Verrier tomorrow!
Pat Bluemel GREAT NEWS! I got back for my 2 year checks in a couple weeks. Say Hi to Sinclair and Marissa if yo ... Read more
Pat Bluemel GREAT NEWS! I got back for my 2 year checks in a couple weeks. Say Hi to Sinclair and Marissa if you see them. Hope your check up goes well!
Melissa Alfred thank you Cathleen <3 After surgery I will be following you! Are you on facebook with your recipes ... Read more
Melissa Alfred thank you Cathleen <3 After surgery I will be following you! Are you on facebook with your recipes and workouts?
Cathleen Weed Hi ❤️ I have some of it on my personal accounts but mostly through my websites and book. I'm happ ... Read more
Cathleen Weed Hi ❤️ I have some of it on my personal accounts but mostly through my websites and book. I'm happy to share my tips with you when you're ready! Jump into outpatient cardiac rehab for a bit after your surgery to get your strength back. You'll be better than ever in no time ❤️. I look forward to hearing your progress xo
So, has anyone ever clicked on one of those open heart surgery videos to watch what is done to us? Just curious, because I haven't had the guts to do so but ...Read more
So, has anyone ever clicked on one of those open heart surgery videos to watch what is done to us? Just curious, because I haven't had the guts to do so but I'm so intrigued.
Sue Sanchez Grela What little I read about it was enough for me 😣. But later on I just might.
James Roberts Good question. I didn't have the nerve before. I think there are some things you don't need to know A ... Read more
James Roberts Good question. I didn't have the nerve before. I think there are some things you don't need to know At least beforehand anyway.
Steve Farthing I've watched some of the short ones and found them very interesting but not at all necessary for prep ... Read more
Steve Farthing I've watched some of the short ones and found them very interesting but not at all necessary for preparing for surgery.
Amy Steele I couldn't bring myself to watch one before surgery, but watched a few a couple of months after. It' ... Read more
Amy Steele I couldn't bring myself to watch one before surgery, but watched a few a couple of months after. It's fascinating yet terrifying at the same time. It was better for me to wait and not know too many of the gory details ahead of time. :-)
Barbara Laurie Yes, but it's more surreal than personal. All the best for your upcoming surgery🌿❤️🌿
Rita Savelis Those videos are not so horrible - fascinating really.
I do wish my surgery had been filmed. I'd lov ... Read more
Rita Savelis Those videos are not so horrible - fascinating really.
I do wish my surgery had been filmed. I'd love to watch it and to know exactly what happened...
I think if you get involved in the science of it all and in the incredible procedure, it can help you have more of a sense of wonder and amazement at it all. This is how watching a video beforehand can be helpful.
Cathleen Weed They are actually pretty fascinating and give you a whole new appreciation for your heart muscle :). ... Read more
Cathleen Weed They are actually pretty fascinating and give you a whole new appreciation for your heart muscle :).
Kevin Shackelford I consumed as much information on the process as possible, including watching the surgical videos. I ... Read more
Kevin Shackelford I consumed as much information on the process as possible, including watching the surgical videos. I asked lots of questions of the docs and I think it helped me integrate my fears prior to the surgery. I am more afraid of the unknown...so I tried as much as possible become an amateur cardiologist!
Paul Wells Please tell me what happened between March 4 and now. On March 4 you were a candidate for a TAVR and ... Read more
Paul Wells Please tell me what happened between March 4 and now. On March 4 you were a candidate for a TAVR and now you are having a traditional open procedure.
Melissa Alfred Hi Paul, what happened was I found out that the valve I received in 2007 was not the right size for a ... Read more
Melissa Alfred Hi Paul, what happened was I found out that the valve I received in 2007 was not the right size for an adult, 19mm. It's way too small & is barely opening now due to stenosis & calcification so putting a valve in valve (TAVR) would never work. Idk why they told me I was a candidate, but after seeing the TAVR surgeon & the cardiac surgeon, traditional open heart surgery is my only choice.
Belinda Marsaw I have and I wish I never watched it. Watching made me think of all the ways it could go wrong. Pleas ... Read more
Belinda Marsaw I have and I wish I never watched it. Watching made me think of all the ways it could go wrong. Please don't look at it.
April 11, 2017 is my surgery date 💔 this will be my second aortic valve replacement but first sternotomy. My AVR 10 years ago (this coming June 15th) was ...Read more
April 11, 2017 is my surgery date 💔 this will be my second aortic valve replacement but first sternotomy. My AVR 10 years ago (this coming June 15th) was via mini thoracotomy above my right boob. I received a tissue bovine valve then 🐮 & I'll be receiving another tissue valve this time.
I get winded walking up the steps in my house to our bedroom now, but I used to run 5ks, do back to back spin classes, crazy workouts 7 days a week, dancing everyday to my own tune, because prior to my last surgery I never really did! I've lived life to the fullest the past 10 years & I am excited to start over again in a few weeks! Xo
Civita Fahey its good to have a date! like you I cant wait to go back to my regular routine (boxing 5-6 days a we ... Read more
Civita Fahey its good to have a date! like you I cant wait to go back to my regular routine (boxing 5-6 days a week). I'm down to only 1-2 now as I get winded so much faster. I'm happy to see that you were so active after your first surgery, though I'm older than you, I hope to at least match what I could do before the AS went to severe.. best of luck Melissa, I'm sure you will do great! keep us posted .
Sue Sanchez Grela Melissa, I am recovering very well from my March 1, AVR at 63 yrs of age and am praying for the best ... Read more
Sue Sanchez Grela Melissa, I am recovering very well from my March 1, AVR at 63 yrs of age and am praying for the best for you! I did my best to stay calm and prepare the best I could. I appreciated my everyday life more not knowing what limitations would come for awhile after surgery. I was not as active as you and many on this site, and my daily walks have been tiring, but they are my only challenge. Have faith that God is with you every step of the way ❤
Malihe ghadimi I read all of your stories and thanks for sharing your experience. I am kind of challenging same thin ... Read more
Malihe ghadimi I read all of your stories and thanks for sharing your experience. I am kind of challenging same thing you have been. Have you thought about mechanical valve? If yes, have you talked about having pregnancy with mechanical valve? (I know your decision is tissue valve from your story )
Melissa Alfred Thank you everyone! Malihe, I wrote on your journal post. if you need to vent, don't hesitate to co ... Read more
Melissa Alfred Thank you everyone! Malihe, I wrote on your journal post. if you need to vent, don't hesitate to contact me. my email is melissa71779@gmail.com
Cathleen Weed I love it :) We sound a lot alike with our love for life and fitness :) I love your attitude!
Melissa Houser I have been very busy lately and have missed a lot on here over the last several weeks. I happened t ... Read more
Melissa Houser I have been very busy lately and have missed a lot on here over the last several weeks. I happened to see you had upcoming surgery. I was hoping you were able to get TAVR, but apparently, it wasn't an option for you. I hope and pray for a great outcome with your surgery :) I'll be following you with my first sternotomy and aortic valve replacement with a mechanical heart valve 6 weeks later.
What are the must have's to pack in your hospital bag?
Amy Steele My must haves were:
ID and Insurance card, neck pillow (makes sleeping at an angle much more comforta ... Read more
Amy Steele My must haves were:
ID and Insurance card, neck pillow (makes sleeping at an angle much more comfortable), eye mask, earplugs or noise cancelling headphones (I used over-the-ear headphones and listened to music all night), lip balm, a very long charging cord for my phone, phone, hairbrush, deodorant, comfortable cotton athletic shorts to wear under the hospital gown after the catheter is removed, and comfortable clothes to leave the hospital in.
Some things I took which I didn't really use were a post-surgical bra (I had a sternotomy and took one with me, but they didn't use it in the hospital. I did wear them for about 6 weeks at home though), slippers (the hospital socks worked fine for me), and a robe (this was just too hot and cumbersome for me with all the wires etc...)
Hope this helps!
pam williams Hi Melissa ear plugs and eye mask compulsory x
Barbara Wood I would add facial cleansing wipes, like Burts bees. The surgeons PA mentioned slippers with good sol ... Read more
Barbara Wood I would add facial cleansing wipes, like Burts bees. The surgeons PA mentioned slippers with good soles, guess she doesn't like the slipper socks they give you. Do you have a date set yet for your second procedure & are you going with TAVR?
Phyllis Petersen I did pick up comfortable open toe sandals with non-slip soles to use as slippers for walking around. ... Read more
Phyllis Petersen I did pick up comfortable open toe sandals with non-slip soles to use as slippers for walking around. I could slide the hospital socks in them. I did use my robe and had a pair of lose jammie bottoms. My sister was nearby and coming every day, so I didn't keep too much at the hospital. They gave me most of what I needed.
Rita Savelis Somthing to tie your hair back with is probably the most important. Take care.
Larry Ring A roll of good quality toilet paper made the day for me...
Cathleen Weed The things above and also a dry shampoo for your long hair and aloe antibacterial hand wipes because ... Read more
Cathleen Weed The things above and also a dry shampoo for your long hair and aloe antibacterial hand wipes because you will use them on your face and arms and neck and chest...so refreshing! The scratchy hospital washcloths aren't so great lol.
Phyllis Petersen I was given a pack of body wipes while I was in ICU to use to clean up. It made a big difference.
Jeannette McLaughlin I agree with the ear plugs as well as the eye mask (those bright lights in the middle of the night su ... Read more
Jeannette McLaughlin I agree with the ear plugs as well as the eye mask (those bright lights in the middle of the night sure can startle you). I also brought a small pillow that I put in-between my knees and sure was glad I did (I also used it for other purposes). A must...some healthy treats! It seems that hospital food is universally unappetizing and the Heart Centre I was at was no exception (margarine...really?!) They quickly found out that I was accustomed to very healthy food and the dietitian came by quite a few times. I managed to get butter, Greek yogourt and hefty salads as extras. I had my healthy treats in-between meals and sure was glad I had brought them along. Don't forget to bring a book or two...and your reading glasses! Also, face cream and hand /body lotion. I had brought my own shampoo and had someone wash my hair thoroughly the day I left. On a couple of occasions, they put a warm cap on my head that released some type of shampoo, but it wasn't the same as the real thing. One more thing I would suggest is to bring a box of good-quality chocolates for the staff. They go beyond the call of duty and it's a nice way to thank them for all what they do for us. I also wrote a card (it had some hearts on it, which made it easy to choose at the store!) I stopped at the nursing station on the way out to do my delivery. It was a nice way to say goodbye and show my appreciation to everyone.
Hello heart warriors! Has anyone had TAVR? I just received the call I've been waiting for from a second opinion & after they reviewed my records they say ...Read more
Hello heart warriors! Has anyone had TAVR? I just received the call I've been waiting for from a second opinion & after they reviewed my records they say I am a candidate for this procedure. I know what the google searches say, I'm more interested in hearing from someone who's had this procedure, How long did post op take and what's the time frame of the TAVR valve?
Melissa Houser Wow, didn't know TAVR was available in a young, healthy person with aortic valve disease. Probably a ... Read more
Melissa Houser Wow, didn't know TAVR was available in a young, healthy person with aortic valve disease. Probably an option for you due to your prior valve replacement. Personally, I would want to know how long the new valve would likely last and if another TAVR procedure could be done in the future if the valve failed, which it probably will in 10-15 years. Just some thoughts for you.
Marie Myers I agree with Melissa. The only TAVRs I have seen were in elderly, sick patients. I would ask a lot of ... Read more
Marie Myers I agree with Melissa. The only TAVRs I have seen were in elderly, sick patients. I would ask a lot of questions. My 97 y.o. Friend who had a TAVR was in the hospital about 3 days. But after only 5 months is starting to show more symptoms as before the TAVR.
Deborah Hudson I had TAVR on November 17, 2017. I am doing great. Read my journal. It is the most amazing thing I ha ... Read more
Deborah Hudson I had TAVR on November 17, 2017. I am doing great. Read my journal. It is the most amazing thing I have ever done. It saved my life.
Deborah Hudson
Melissa Alfred Thanks Deborah! I will read your journal :) I already have an appointment set up with the surgeon & ... Read more
Melissa Alfred Thanks Deborah! I will read your journal :) I already have an appointment set up with the surgeon & I already have questions, But as I wrote in my journal post I'd like to speak to people who have had the procedure done.
Lisa Giaccone My mom is 69 and they offered for her to be in a study where they would flip a coin to see if she wou ... Read more
Lisa Giaccone My mom is 69 and they offered for her to be in a study where they would flip a coin to see if she would get TAVR on day of surgery. It is not the GOLD standard so they use it on people who can't handle OHS. They are trying to get other candidates to use is to see what the long term outcomes will be. Definitely less invasive but there is more risk involved. ASK LOTS OF QUESTIONS!
Cathleen Weed Hi I had TAVR in August 2015. So easy. I've had 3 OHS in the past for my aortic valve so I can tell y ... Read more
Cathleen Weed Hi I had TAVR in August 2015. So easy. I've had 3 OHS in the past for my aortic valve so I can tell you it's nothing like that. Amazing and simple. I actually left the next evening. I had it at Cedars Sinai in Los Angeles with Dr Raj Makkar. He's the best of the best. He does them all day long. They said they can do TAVR again (probably even more advanced by then too) when the time comes ❤️. They expect this valve to last as long as any other implanted tissue valve. I'm young for TAVR and fit but got approved for TAVR due to the previous surgeries. It will be approved for everyone eventually. I'm perfectly healthy, normal vitals, and I exercise at least 4 times a week. Happy to answer questions.
Melissa Alfred Cathleen that's so inspiring to know! Thank you so much. I have been very fit since my first AVR 10 ... Read more
Melissa Alfred Cathleen that's so inspiring to know! Thank you so much. I have been very fit since my first AVR 10 years ago was active everyday doing some kind of crazy cardio, running, yoga, etc. but now since I've found the AS is severe again I've become sedentary in the past year and gained weight. i'm 37 and desperately want children, so I think this is why the TAVR has been chosen for me by Univ of WA surgeons. I go for my CTA & appointments March 16th & I can't wait to get it over with so I can get back to my fitness & start making babies! I'd love to ask you questions thanks :)
Barbara Laurie Our friend did TAVR in January.. his recovery time was almost instantly!! Just the groined wound head ... Read more
Barbara Laurie Our friend did TAVR in January.. his recovery time was almost instantly!! Just the groined wound headed to heal. He felt much better almost within a day.
Anyone had their heart surgery in a different state where you had to fly to? If so, how long after surgery did you fly back home? Just curious.
Phyllis Petersen I flew to Ohio to go to Cleveland Clinic from Tucson, AZ. I was fortunate to have family not far away ... Read more
Phyllis Petersen I flew to Ohio to go to Cleveland Clinic from Tucson, AZ. I was fortunate to have family not far away, especially since the uncle I got to spend time with died recently. I'm not sure about other hospitals, but Cleveland Clinic has a concierge to help with arrangements and they give you a fair idea when you'll be ready to fly back. I know Catie had some unforeseen issues and I believe they helped with changing her plane reservations. The Holiday Inn on campus was also very willing to extend the reservation if needed. I had surgery on Oct. 13 and flew home on the 26th. I told them at the airport that I would need wheelchair assistance and American took care of that for all segments.
Michael Meyer Melissa:
Although I drove to Cleveland Clinic many folks flew in had surgery. Spent the following wee ... Read more
Michael Meyer Melissa:
Although I drove to Cleveland Clinic many folks flew in had surgery. Spent the following weekend in a hotel and flew home. Mitral valve repair was done by having preop Thursday/Friday weekend in Cleveland surgery Monday, discharge on Friday with no complications weekend in Cleveland and travel home.
I had a 6 month follow up of my severe AS this past Monday with an Stress Echo. I nailed the treadmill test because i'm asymptomatic but this time my cardiologist ...Read more
I had a 6 month follow up of my severe AS this past Monday with an Stress Echo. I nailed the treadmill test because i'm asymptomatic but this time my cardiologist said my heart is not contracting normally & she believes I have coronary valve disease which puts me at a risk of a heart attack. Are you (sorry not sorry) fucking kidding me?
I have so many emotions going on right now.
1. Depression. the day before my husband & I started our drive from NY to WA to move, I was pregnant but found on my 2.5 month sono that the baby had died. Drove cross country like this to have a miscarriage on Christmas Day last year in our new house. yay. then palpitations began last February when I found Swedish heart & vascular here in Seattle, they did some tests & found my valve to be severely calcified and the AS severe. What? I had a follow up with my cardiologist in NY the month before I drove here so how is this possible in 4 months to decline like this. The cardiologist at Swedish instructed me that I cannot get pregnant with my valve like this until I have surgery however i'm asymptomatic so it would be elective. OK thanks.
So now I turn 37 and time is ticking and i'm just getting more depressed and of course my face book is full of pregnant posts and babies popping the fuck out. Its all so wonderful and happy.
2. Anger. I had found acupuncture to relieve my PTSD I suffered from the surgery years ago. At the last sono in NY when I found out the baby was dead I was told to "try again in 6 weeks" Had I not gotten palpitations and started seeing doctors or if I had just gone for acupuncture to relieve them would I be complete with a baby right now? the palpitations went away completely within my first 2 acupuncture visits by the way, but I didn't start doing that until just 3 months ago. All these doctors are keeping me from fulfilling my life's purpose on this earth and i'm pissed off.
3. Fear. someone recently told me, "just go get your chest cracked open and get it the fuck done with already so you can pop a kid out." no comment.
4. Frustration. the surgeon i consulted with at Swedish refuses anything but a mechanical valve which is not what I want & I have strong reasons why this is not the valve for me. so i'm in the process of seeking 2nd or even 3rd opinions on this. And then, I have to make a decision and soon if I want to be a mom.
ahh night time venting. if you're still reading this, i'm impressed.
Ellen Leng Get your records together and get some other surgical opinions. I lohbve my SF Bay Area surgeon, Luis ... Read more
Ellen Leng Get your records together and get some other surgical opinions. I lohbve my SF Bay Area surgeon, Luis Castro, there's Mayor in MN or AZ, Cedars in LA, or back to NY if you trust them more. Get a surgeon you can work with, or at least one you trust if they all give the same advice.
Miscarriage is really difficult and everyone handles it differently. Sounds like the acupuncture is good for you no matter the status of your palpitations. Take care
Rita Savelis Oh, Melissa, Depression, Anger, Fear, Frustration... Of course. Geez. What else could you feel? You d ... Read more
Rita Savelis Oh, Melissa, Depression, Anger, Fear, Frustration... Of course. Geez. What else could you feel? You don't deserve any of this.... I'm hoping you can find a doctor who understands your total situation - why you need the valve you want, what you are going through wanting to get pregnant and be a mom.... and finds a solution that will work for you.
You can vent all you want. Take care.
Civita Fahey Melissa, you're feelings that you are having are normal, we've all them.. what? me? are you kidding? ... Read more
Civita Fahey Melissa, you're feelings that you are having are normal, we've all them.. what? me? are you kidding? I feel fine etc.. then the fear, what if i dont make it? I dont want to die.. etc.. but, once it all sinks it you will see that you are in the right place, and you will be fine.. I myself was in denial for about year, and have my surgery scheduled for this April.. this is a great site where people like us can vent, talk, get information etc. No one knows how you feel, except someone who is going through it.. As far as the valve, its your choice, you should look for another doctor that will give the option of a tissue.. I hope you can find the right doctor for you, (I went to 3 before I found the one I felt comfortable with).. Best of luck..
Phyllis Petersen There are many very good surgical centers if you're able to travel for surgery. I had repair at Cleve ... Read more
Phyllis Petersen There are many very good surgical centers if you're able to travel for surgery. I had repair at Cleveland Clinic, but had to choose a valve just in case, and they were very much on board with tissue. Valve surgery is moving ahead at a fast pace, so I can't see why they are insisting on mechanical. Did the surgeon give a good reason? As for your situation, you've been through, and aren't out of, hell and you definitely should feel free to vent. That's what community is all about. My niece had one child, then two miscarriages, and finally another child in her mid/late 30's. It's devastating! Then, to have these other issues only adds to it. Keep pushing for what you feel in your heart (pun intended) is right for you.
Barbara Wood I understand your feelings completely Melissa. Ventings good- hang in there, it's a process. Best wis ... Read more
Barbara Wood I understand your feelings completely Melissa. Ventings good- hang in there, it's a process. Best wishes to you
Gail Magnus Melissa, I live in Seattle and had surgery a year ago at
UW. We should talk, if you're up for it. M ... Read more
Gail Magnus Melissa, I live in Seattle and had surgery a year ago at
UW. We should talk, if you're up for it. My email is GLPSTL2003@yahoo.com.
Melissa Houser My heart goes out to you, Melissa. You have been through a lot at a young age and had to make a toug ... Read more
Melissa Houser My heart goes out to you, Melissa. You have been through a lot at a young age and had to make a tough decision years ago. You should know that I am unable to have children of my own due to having Turner Syndrome, a genetic disorder that caused me to be infertile and caused my aortic stenosis. I am also a pediatrician and strongly realize that one's physical capabilities of bearing a child doesn't necessarily correlate with one's parenting abilities. Ultimately, you will need to decide what is best for you, tissue or mechanical heart valve. As a doctor, I see the On-X valve (http://www.onxlti.com/) being the "sweet spot" - less anticoagulation than the older generation heart valves, and one can do home blood tests to follow INR tests, which measures one's blood clotting ability. This option is not perfect, but the mechanical heart valve lasts. Unfortunately, one should not get pregnant with a mechanical heart valve due to risk of blood clots. However, you also need to be physically healthy to care for a child, and you would be if you had the procedure recommended. As much as you want to have your own child, don't forget the option of adopting one, who would be just as much yours as if you physically bore him or her. These things may not be what you want to hear, but regardless, know I have prayed for your decision today.
Hi. Is anyone here in Washington State? I had my aortic valve replaced 10 years ago this coming June 2017, at NYU (I'm from NY) but moved to WA a year ago. ...Read more
Hi. Is anyone here in Washington State? I had my aortic valve replaced 10 years ago this coming June 2017, at NYU (I'm from NY) but moved to WA a year ago.
Bob Fessler Hi Melissa. I'm also from Washington State. When time comes for my AVR, I'm considering both Swedis ... Read more
Bob Fessler Hi Melissa. I'm also from Washington State. When time comes for my AVR, I'm considering both Swedish and University of Washington. I may have to interview a couple of surgeons I have in mind to decide. Welcome to the board.
Melissa Alfred Thank you Bob! So far I have seen Dr. Barnhart at Swedish & I'm going back for a 2nd opinion with Dr ... Read more
Melissa Alfred Thank you Bob! So far I have seen Dr. Barnhart at Swedish & I'm going back for a 2nd opinion with Dr. Ryan at Swedish as well. What kind of time frame do you have?
Bob Fessler Dr. Barnhart is at the top of my list because of all the great things I've heard about him. I also a ... Read more
Bob Fessler Dr. Barnhart is at the top of my list because of all the great things I've heard about him. I also am considering Dr. Verrier at UofW. Dr. Ryan and Dr. Lehr from Swedish are two other possibilities but lower on the list. I have severe aortic stenosis but it is not bad enough to schedule surgery yet. I hope to put it off for a while. Two opinions sounds like a great idea. Should the two opinions be from the same institution? I would have thought that it would be better to get another degree of separation. I wonder.