richard's Guestbook

Dear Susan and Richard, Thank you so much for posting in my journal for my two year anniversary! Susan...I have also enjoyed your journal postings, and have thought of you often. I am glad Richard is doing well. In fact, you both look fantastic in the reunion picture. It brought much joy to me to see all my journal friends looking so happy and healthy! You will forever be in my thoughts and prayers. Stay healthy, Theresa C.

Wow, thank you for your kind and generous words about our time together. It meant so much to us that you would drive so far out of your way to see us. We had a great time! Please know that we are real friends and we will be on this amazing journey together wherever it takes us. And even more important, God is with us. So Richard, what\'s going on now? Wearing the monitor? How are you feeling? Maybe it\'s time for a phone call. Our love to you both. Duane & Peggy

Hi Susan and Richard, I was so happy to hear you were doing great. It was so nice you were able to visit Duane. I just celebrated my year anniversary and am doing well. I just wanted to say I always enjoyed your journal entries, and it is great to hear everything is well. TheresavCallanan

Hi Susan and Richard You know, I think we just missed you guys in Florida. Pete and I were quite close to Peggy and Duane\'s town but unfortunately we didn`t have wheels so weren\'t able to get over to meet them. Hey, great picture by the way. After visiting in Davenport, Florida for a week we flew up to Hilton Head to visit other friends for another week and then home. I haven`t been able to travel for over five years so this trip was very liberating. I had trouble getting through the metal sensor in Orlando and couldn`t figure out why. I don`t know what I was thinking but will eventually put a call in to the surgeon to confirm I am indeed put together with a little metal. Daaagh! How are the two of you? Has Richard been keeping well and out of trouble? Were you on holiday long? Do you often go to Florida? Nice to know we only have a few weeks of winter left. Your winter was a lot more harsh than ours this year. Right now we don`t have a drop of snow - just water-sogged grass. Pete saw a robin this week. That is great news. Stay in touch. Cheers. Cheryl, Ontario

Hi Susan and Richard, It was so cool that you got together with Duane and Peggy - you all look great in the photos that Duane posted. Duane\'s news tonight has prompted me to do a quick reconnect with my special guardian angels - you are all so wonderful. I loved reading your last journal entry Richard, nothing wrong with your story telling! Drop me a line when you get a moment, it would be great to hear how you are both faring over the years! love and hugs Penny

Great photo of you and Susan with Duane. We would have loved to drive up and visit last week but as Duane probably told you, we had a dear friend visiting. Is it hard to believe that it\'s been a year? It\'ll be a year for me on the 18th and my son asked me if we were doing something special on that day. Hadn\'t thought about, maybe we will come up with something besides prayers of thankfulness. My email address is fmzilko@embarqmail.com if you ever want to send a note. Fran

Hi Richard So good to hear from you, thank you for your kind note. I was a little concerned not to hear after my September note as I had asked a few questions. Now, I know you were just busy getting on with life. Seems like your \"pump head\" symptoms are gone? I hope so, you are really the only one who wrote about it as I recall. Glad to know you haven\'t really needed the pacemaker, I remember that scary time post op when the decision had to be made. They are still tweaking my meds too as my blood pressure is up a bit. How is work,is there enough work for full time? Hello to Susan, where would we be without our loving spouses? And yes, I do hope we meet. Until then, keep smiling. Fran

Hi Susan and Richard So nice to have an update letting us know you are very obviously doing better finally. For you to be able to do all that walking - well, it says it all. I guess it will take a while for people to know you are back to work but be patient and it will come again. Do you have to ever do anything about keeping your unused pacemaker updated with current batteries. Just curious. Hi to Susan. Cheryl, Ontario

Hi Richard (and Susan) So good to get an update from you and learn you are doing so well. I know you had a rough time of it for quite a while. Great news about the pacemaker. Seems you basically haven\'t needed it since around your surgery--wonderful. I see my cardio later this month for my 6 month check and echo. Will see if any med changes take place. Every few weeks I have a few seconds of \"funny\" vision and blame it on the heart lung machine. If they start to happen more frequently or last longer will have to look into them as you are. I know you must be feeling 100% better as you did your own posting instead of your bride. Does this mean the \"pump head\" syndrome is finally gone? What a wonderful trip to DC you had. Did you do the Smithsonian? That\'s another trip as you need a couple of days to see it well. Hope it wasn\'t too hot. I am walking inside on a treadmill as the heat and humidity is so uncomfortable for me. Hope you will have a mild winter. Also now that you\'re healthy, hope work picks up for you. I have a brother who is a carpenter and they are finally starting to do some custom cabinetry for people who are updating their homes or their offices. Keep smiling, keep your sense of humor and let us know how it\'s going in ME. Fran

Hi Richard, It\'s \"Norah next door\" Ya we are jusr back for DC also. And God but I have legs that burn for the first time in my life. But it was fun. Not that Mike and I ran up the Metro stairs! Glad your doing well and remember we all have the odd vision problem from time to time. It\'s call the over 50 club, so I reckon your doing wonderful and by all accounts have a clean bill of health. Good for you. Don\'t panic about the jobs not moving as fast you may want. I say, be careful what you wish for! Shoudl I win the lotto you will have a giant headace. And that\'s a promish. Talk to you soon. PS. If your lady wife has to work late and you need a walk we can arrange that. Mike would just love to test out his \"walking shoes\".

Hi Richard and Susan, So good to hear from you. You sound like you are doing amazing. I hope the vision problem gets resolved easily. Were you in D.C. This week-end during the big revival rally? It sounds like you and Susan enjoyed yourselves. Let us know how you make out after your tests. Only best wishes to you both. Theresa C.

HiSue, God damm it, does this mean we have to start jogging now? So much for our chat and walk. Does Richard realize what high standards he is setting for the walkers of Wentworth Road. Help. Norah. PS Good for you Rich.

HiSue, God damm it, does this mean we have to start jogging now? So much for our chat and walk. Does Richard realize what high standards he is setting for the walkers of Wentworth Road. Help. Norah. PS Good for you Rich.

Good Morning Richard and Susan Understand you\'re finally getting some summer weather this weekend after a cool, rainy June. Would love to send some of our heat and humidity to you. Often think of you both and glad you had a great post for us to see progress. It\'s hard not to be impatient (as in \"why not yesterday\"?). We know God has a plan for each of us and in His wisdom He has not chosen to reveal it to us. With my complications post op, I tended to judge my progress on a daily basis and it was pretty depressing. Then my dear Pete suggested I try a weekly progress check and that worked so much better as I did make progress week to week. As I follow your notes, Richard, I do see progress. Hang in there. We don\'t know why some people are back to work in 4 weeks and no set backs. Others have more trials. We\'ll all be stronger for it in the end. I too have had some vision problems. Seems like a current theme. Vision is not as sharp and last night had the white zigzag lines of a migraine but no pain. Being a nurse will say I never had post op patients who had standard anesthesia (no heart-lung machine) complain about vision related problems after surgery. So have to assume it\'s unique to open heart surgery. We can\'t have the surgery without it. I am still on heart medication, a pretty hefty dose to control my heart rate and pulse, a diuretic, potassium, Coumadin and Crestor (cholesterol). Richard I know it\'s a pain, but be thankful your drugs are available to continue to keep you and your heart healthy.Maybe one day the dosages will be lowered or even discontinued. Keep smiling, walking, jogging, whatever it takes to improve. The recovery from this major surgery is no picnic but the alternative is something not to think about. Fran

Hi Richard & Susan! It is so good to hear from you guys and to hear that Richard continues to make good progress. Maybe some of his (and my) lingering issues are anesthesia related. I\'ve read that\'s pretty mysterious and non-specific stuff. Perhaps those vision issues come from that. Who knows? They know a lot, but obviously even brilliant doctors don\'t know everything. I\'m glad God does! Way to go on your rehab and walking and jogging, Richard!! My two cardiac rehab nurses are training for a half marathon in October, and I am threatening to try to do it with them. Wouldn\'t that be a newsworthy story--two rehab nurses with their patient? Perhaps you could come and join us. Seriously, it\'s great that you\'re walking. Exercise and activity are key to recovery. I know I just feel a whole lot better being active. Keep on the upward track. Do keep in touch. If you ever venture away from the journals, my email is duane@centerpointchurch.org. Love & Prayers from FL, Duane

Hi Susan and Richard Isn\'t it great that Richard is trying so well - that\'s amazing. It tells me his mind is healing and he is having confidence in his health. He just may start jogging and next we\'ll be hearing about his knees! Anyway Richard, I\'m totally proud of your efforts. Thanks for your entry in my journal Susan. It\'s nice to keep in touch. Weather here is great as well - 80\'s so I\'m loving it. Life here has returned to \"normal\" and I\'m happy to say Pete is averaging 3 golf days a week. I say days because sometimes he gets 36 holes in and then comes home and joins me for a walk. He doesn\'t use a cart until the second 18 holes so he really gets exercise. I really do pray that Richard\'s full memory returns soon. Are there any little tests such as puzzles etc. that might help speed things up? Enjoy your summer as well. Cheryl, Ontario

Dear Susan, Thank you so much on your kind words concerning my brother-in-laws death. It was unexpected and sad, but we are all coping as well as can be expected. So glad to hear about Richard\'s progress...I understand completely about medications...I am on a beta blocker which has significantly lowered my blood pressure to 90/60, to address my fast heart rate. Since I have no symptoms of low blood pressure, the doctor says it is ok. I was told by my cardiologist that he would eventually ween me off of the medication...when I do not know. I hope his eye doctor gets to the bottom of his vision problem...I do know when I was in the beginning stages of recovery, my eyesight seemed different and it was hard for me to read and focus. It is better now, but maybe it lasts longer for some patients. Once again, you are so funny concerning Richard\'s jogging. It made me laugh! Glad to hear from you again. Take Care, Theresa Callanan

I\'m glad to hear that Richard is doing well enough to try a little jogging during his walks. Keep up that great attitude and you\'ll be well on your way back to you happy go lucky self. PS Kiddos to you Nurse Susan.

Hmmm Richard as a walker/jogger - does this mean he gets to wear a tank top and itty bitty shorts - oh yeah! Keep working it Rich - every day will get better and better. Regarding your eyesight - medications can really play with our minds that is for sure. Take care and have a great weekend. Bella

Hi Susan and Richard Thanks for the note in my guestbook. I know you both have been busy as well, especially as the good weather is here and we are out of doors more. Sounds as if you are still having a few concerns Richard but eventually as time goes by hopefully you will become more adjusted to how your body feels now. I know that has been happening with me over the palpitations I still get but at least the beta blocker helps reduce them so that I don\'t feel them as violent or as often. I will go ages without feeling my incision and then I might twist or turn a certain way and I\'ll feel the pinch. I think Adam said that could go on for quite some time yet. I too am back to walking and going further and faster as I develope the ability to do so. Pete comes along with me most times and when he does he reports the walks are more business than just pleasure because I\'m going as fast as I\'m able and as he\'s offering to stop here or there, I take my wrist monitor and don\'t slow down until my heart beat gets too high. After Pete has spent all day in the sun on the golf course he\'s pretty much walked out but thank goodness he\'s so supportive that he insists on coming with me. Susan - he\'s still actively pitching in with the housework as well. He does most of the vacuuming and the bathrooms with leaves me the dusting - the easy part! Just thought I\'d give him a plug. It was good to hear from you. Enjoy the good weather as we get so little of it. Take care you two. Cheryl, Ontario

Hi Susan and Richard, It is so nice to hear from you...I enjoy reading your updates. It seems the road to recovery is sometimes long, and many have had some complications. But the important fact is....everyone has plowed through the complications and continued on their road to recovery. I think that even though we have Adam\'s book as a reference point, everyone has had a unique and different experience. I think that is what is so great about this site...hearing everyone\'s experience gives you a perspective that you might sail through surgery with no complications, or you might have setbacks but still you will be ok. I hope Richard continues to progress and everyday is a better one. Please keep in touch it was great to hear from you. I am in cardio rehab and totally enjoying it. Take care, Theresa Callanan

Hi Susan, Great to read the up-date. It\'s hard to imagine that Richard is still \'recovering\' when he looks so good. So thank you for that. As friends we must remember that just because you guys are home form the hospital in Boston, that does\'nt mean all is well. So if and when you do need a chat, helping hand or a dinner out with friends keep us in mind. We are always justt a ph call away. Hang in there Susan and remember it\'s getting better each and every day. Norah next door. Ps. Richard should you be looking for silent walking friend ... Mike is free!

Hi Susan and Richard Sorry I have taken so long to get back to you. I lent my laptop a few weeks ago and haven\'t been getting down to the office during the evenings to keep up so right now I\'m making the effort to get all my e-mails caught up. It was so nice to hear from you. Your e-mails are so inspiring. Some days I feel much as Richard does in that I can either jump through hoops or just sit and watch someone else do the jumping. Thankfully I don\'t have too many of those blah days anymore. I try to always at least look like I\'m \"alive and energetic\" so as not to put Peter through more stress. It breaks my heart to remember how hard he took my surgery and how even now when I say the slightest negative thing without thinking, the look of terror on his face. I\'m thinking some of my loss of energy, other than the drugs I\'m on, could possibly be the muscle I\'ve lost since not being able to fully exercise in so very long and now it\'s that much further I have to climb. I\'m trying to be positive in thinking about that. Captain Bill said it well when he said he didn\'t sign up for this lengthy and difficult recovery but that is what it is when the truth be told. It\'s a lot of hard work and I\'m no spring chicken!! Richard is so right when he compares how his emotional well-being has been taken down a peg or two. Maybe it\'s like we\'ve been forced to face the possibility of death or some imparement to our bodies and it takes so much out of us that getting through the physical part of the surgery is only one step. It would be easier to pick up the pieces if we didn\'t have to go through the recovery process and the little things that happen to us while doing so. Others just can\'t near imagine having the wind knocked clear out of themselves and the difficulty it is in getting it back. We are survivors though Susan and I really do feel so blessed that I\'ve been given a second chance. Selfishly it would have been nice if that second chance came with the energy of a teen! Since surgery I now say I come with instructions. You talk a lot about how Richard feels but how do you feel? Can you say you are totally unscathed having been through such a rough time with Richard? Have you been able to put all of this in the past and move on? I hope you have gained enough confidence in Richard\'s health that you can go about each day thinking Richard just needs a push now and then and that eventually he too will be able to put all of this in a special place, to be shared now and then just for old times sake. Take care Susan. Wishing you both a happy summer. Cheryl, Ontario

Hi Richard & Susan I have been remiss in thanking you for your encouraging notes in my journal as I have dealt with a few setbacks. Visit to my internist today shows there is still some fluid in both lung cavities, but it is not increasing, so with time, God willing, will not have to have them drained again.Lung cough, congestion, infection has cleared,amen.The cardio says it may be 6 months, she says up to a year till I\'m back to my old self. So, Susan, your advice about patience and taking time really touched me as you two are going through it right now. I will be kind to my body and do what I can and let time work its\' magic. I measure my progress by the week because like Richard, it changes too much by the day. Great news about your heart doing well on its\' own and not needing the pacemaker. I remember how difficult that time was for you post op. Guess you just have to think of it as insurance, it\'s there when and if it is needed.Hope the trip to Ct went well and so glad spring has finally come. Will send you some of our heat. It\'s too hot for us already.In the 90\'s and that doesn\'t usually happen till June. Have been walking in my home, but did go to the sports center we have here in our development and used the treadmill as walking outdoors with the heat and humidity won\'t be possible for a long time. There are so many newcomers who have come on board and I try to follow some of them, but we \"oldies\" have to stick together. Keep smiling, keep moving and stay positive. Am going to print it in bold letters and put it on my refrigerator door! Fran Z