Hi Laura, You have come here to HVJ. This site will help you a lot. It is just so amazing. It is natural to be scared and have anxiety etc. Its also wise to get that second opionion also. You will find out like what J Teefitt said waiting is the worse part of all of this. Just take one day at a time process it all and get Adams book also that will help a lot. The more you know the better it will be. Like they all said to me knowledge is power. You will do fine and what I did was say a lot of prayers. That probably helped the most. Keep in touch with all of us here .We are here to help. Good luck to you.
Mooing all over
Linda H and Elsie AVR9/19/12
Welcome to the club! The anxiety of waiting now thru your surgery date is much worse than the surgery and recovery itself. You can handle this. I did not do all the research that some suggest (fix/replace--valve type--incision type--and so on). I followed the referral of my GP, then my Cardiologist, then my surgeon. If you have comfort with and confidence in the med team assembled, you cannot out think them. Adam's book is a guide for asking questions, but in the end, you will want to agree with the Doctor.
Relax, let the process work out for you. We'll see you "on the other side."