That is a great story Steve.....thanks for sharing. I have a question if you don't mind. How did you deal with the depressive state, was it tough, hard, did ...Read more
That is a great story Steve.....thanks for sharing. I have a question if you don't mind. How did you deal with the depressive state, was it tough, hard, did it worry you somewhat. And did you have special help for that, like counselling or medication. By the way i wish the both of you well......and happy travelling. Take care
Steve Gregorich Sorry it took so long for me to respond, Pino. You have a very good question. I am day-to-day a ver ... Read more
Steve Gregorich Sorry it took so long for me to respond, Pino. You have a very good question. I am day-to-day a very happy guy, but I have had trouble with depression -- serious depression -- several times. I have learned over the years that there are three things that tend to propel me into depression:
1. Making too many commitments. I feel I have to finish everything and keep adding new things on top and feel bad if I don't get everything done.
2. Finding myself in a place where I feel "stuck" or "trapped." It seems like I have duties to carry out and have no way to change my situation -- trapped.
3. Getting out of shape and drinking too much.
I did not get a good mental hold on my situation regarding depression until I was nearly 70. I did try counselors/therapists, but that was not helpful. I was diagnosed with something in the autistic spectrum of disorders, but that turned out to be incorrect and I wasted a lot of time trying to deal with something that was not correct for me.
Thankfully, I had received considerable education dealing with analysis of interpersonal problems and was eventually able to identify the three problem areas that I listed. Gradually, I changed all three of them. I got myself out of a situation in which I felt "trapped." It was very hard, but that life change was critical for me.
I cut out hard liquor and beer and now enjoy a couple glasses of wine occasionally. Another hard thing but absolutely necessary.
Finally, I learned to enjoy hiking and I go to the gym twice a week at 5:30 in the morning. Exercise is medicine, as they say. It certainly is true for me. It is such a joy not to be dealing with sprained and sore joints and to have a clear head with which to solve life's problems -- exercise does that for me.
I don't know if this is helpful for you, Pino, it is all personal. But maybe you can take heart from it and see your way to taking some steps in your life that have seemed impossible. Change is what works.
1. Making too many commitments. I feel I have to finish everything and keep adding new things on top and feel bad if I don't get everything done.
2. Finding myself in a place where I feel "stuck" or "trapped." It seems like I have duties to carry out and have no way to change my situation -- trapped.
3. Getting out of shape and drinking too much.
I did not get a good mental hold on my situation regarding depression until I was nearly 70. I did try counselors/therapists, but that was not helpful. I was diagnosed with something in the autistic spectrum of disorders, but that turned out to be incorrect and I wasted a lot of time trying to deal with something that was not correct for me.
Thankfully, I had received considerable education dealing with analysis of interpersonal problems and was eventually able to identify the three problem areas that I listed. Gradually, I changed all three of them. I got myself out of a situation in which I felt "trapped." It was very hard, but that life change was critical for me.
I cut out hard liquor and beer and now enjoy a couple glasses of wine occasionally. Another hard thing but absolutely necessary.
Finally, I learned to enjoy hiking and I go to the gym twice a week at 5:30 in the morning. Exercise is medicine, as they say. It certainly is true for me. It is such a joy not to be dealing with sprained and sore joints and to have a clear head with which to solve life's problems -- exercise does that for me.
I don't know if this is helpful for you, Pino, it is all personal. But maybe you can take heart from it and see your way to taking some steps in your life that have seemed impossible. Change is what works.