Hi Tom, Love the fan. Only you could be so clever - a fan and a message sender all in one.
You are with us always in our thoughts and prayers and you are right you could not be in better hands than my beloved sister who not only is my beloved sister but my BFF as well. Not to mention the best nurse practioner ever!
I love the man cave Tom and I don't know I think maybe at some point Barb may let you have your man fridge in your cave - you never know.
Enjoy your day today. Hope you enjoyed the baked macaroni and cheese immensely.
Sure would like to see those jammies.
Love,
Mary
On June 16, 2010...
Tom,
Not sure if you remember me or even know who I am, but I'm a member of St. Charles and usually greet at the West side of the church at the 9:30 Mass. I wish you the best in your upcoming surgery and will pray for a speedy recovery. I will also pray for Barbara, as the caregiver needs help and support also. Be a good patient for her. Take care and God be with you.
Rae Liese
On June 15, 2010...
Tom!!
You rock bro! The Beatles and Superman jamies ... !! Gotta love it ...
Stay strong my friend, hang in there and keep posting!!!
Ray
On June 15, 2010...
Uncle Tom,
I wanted to let you know that we are praying for you this Thursday and know that God is with you!! I enjoy this blog and think it a very theraputic (spelling) way to approach this situation in your life! We love you and will be praying for and thinking of you on Thursday!
Love,
Laura and Family
On June 15, 2010...
Tom,
With your surgery so close, I just wanted to let you know that Kimberly and I have you in our thoughts and prayers.
We both know that you will do fine and it appears that you have a really great support group in your corner.
Take Care and God Bless
Kimberly and David
Greenville, NC
On June 15, 2010...
Dad,
With your surgery just days away I thought now would as good of a time as ever to send you my well wishes. You mentioned today that you should get sick more often so that you get yummy homemade mac and cheese and Abbott’s ice cream cake, not to mention the new “toys” that you have added to your collection. Well, I would like to make you this promise – if you never get sick again, I will bring you Abbott’s ice cream everyday – for lunch!
On a more serious note, we all know that your will is as strong as your faith. I know that you will get through this bump in the road and be better than ever! You have always been there to support Matt and I and I couldn’t be more grateful for it. It is now our turn to support you in your time of need. I am looking forward to seeing you back on your feet. Get well soon!
Much love,
Lindsay
On June 15, 2010...
Tom, I will be looking forward to the return of the "great ape", some need see the ape if they have not already, it will always be a part of my life.
Get well soon our prayers are with you everyday. If you need a walking buddy these next few weeks I am a phone call away.
Dale
On June 15, 2010...
Hi, Tom!
We will be thinking of you and praying for you even more than usual in the next couple of days. I know that everything will go along just fine, as long as you are a GOOD patient!! (See to that, will you, Barb?)
Sending hugs and lots of good wishes for a speedy recovery.
See you soon and behave yourself in the hospital, will ya'?
Love,
Judy & Tom
On June 15, 2010...
Thinking of you today and will say some extra prayers tonight. Good luck and remember to listen to whatever Mrs. Schrage says after surgery, she knows best. :)
Take care,
Melissa (Beth's friend)
On June 15, 2010...
Good Morning Tom,
I am so hungry for KFC, did you know that the one by Dad's old house up and closed?Geez, I miss that place, now if I want so good old KFC I have to travel way over to Southport to get it! Needless to say, I haven't had it in sooo long! Anyways, I remember all of those good times on Kingsbury Ave also. Especially when all of us neighborhood kids were so mad at the old bitty that we all went home and got all the chalk we could find and drew a big picture of a witch in the road right in front of her house. And I mean big, the manhole cover was used as the hole in her nostril! All because we were making too much noise and bothering her custormers playing baseball in the street! Even her own kids helped to draw it. Then we were all in big trouble and our parents made us get brooms and buckets of water and wash the street off. We wern't bad kids, just creative!
Tom, I know that as the surgery gets closer, you have really prepared yourself. I think about you everyday and keep praying that everything goes well. Just remember all the love that surrounds you and I know you will be fine. You'll be back home in no time enjoying that man cave!
Love your sister,
Sandy
On June 15, 2010...
Hi Tom
Make sure you have your wife bring along some vaseline or chapstick to use on your lips while you are in ICU. If she keeps your lips moist, even when you seem to be out of it, it might help make the tube a little less noticeable. Enjoy the family and especially that mac and cheese. Keep your spirits high. Sounds as if you'll be getting great care once you're back home.
Cheryl, Ontario
On June 15, 2010...
Good Morning Tom
Take a deep breath, it's almost here and you'll be fine. I want to know what kind of a store you purchased your amazing fan? Rochester must have a lot of people with a great sense of humor. I think the blade sayings are perfect, hope you don't have to use the "wipe me" one too often. Yes, you are fortunate to have your own nurse post op.Nurses know all about TLC but also to be "pushy" when it's needed. Praying for you. Seems like you have the wonderful support team Adam stresses in his book.
Fran
On June 14, 2010...
Hi Tom,
My name is Sean and I also have Aortic Stenosis. I am 33 and have an appointment with the heart surgeon on June 29, I am alittle scared but I know it needs to be done. You seem like a strong guys good luck with everything.
Sean
On June 14, 2010...
Hi Tom,
I've been going to write this since I started to read your journals. I must say that I never knew that you were such a terrific writer! I did however know that you were quite the comedian. I too share your affection for the Three Stooges. I'm pretty sure that I've seen everything they've ever made and the great part is that I can still watch them whenever I want on You Tube.
I can tell by reading your guestbook entries how much people love you and want to support you through this. You my friend have given so much of yourself to others that it's coming around full circle back to you. I will never forget yout thoughtfulness to me when I was struggling a few years back. Not only did you offer excellent advice but you really listened. And the best part of those times was the Big Bear Hug that you would give me! I really looked forward to them and appreciated you so much for being there (and Barb too!).
I want you to know that I've been praying for you and will continue to do so. You are in my thoughts and I mean it when I say that if there is anything that I can do for you & Barb I'm here.
God bless you Tom and much love...Pattie Daniels
On June 14, 2010...
Hey Tom, don't forget to pack the extra socks to keep your feet warm! Maybe you could get the funny ones that have the different colored toes! Love, Sandy
On June 14, 2010...
Hi Tom,
I just caught up on your escapades. You are a funny writer and I enjoyed reading them.I am
glad you have entered the acceptance stage, it is such a calm feeling versus stressful one. My daughter was amazed that I was so calm throughout my diagnosis and surgery. I told myself I can not control this situation, so I will accept it. I have noticed on this site that most patients eventually decide to take this path. Can not wait to hear all of your adventures before and after surgery!
Theresa Callanan
On June 14, 2010...
Hi Tom,
I don't know about the KFC chicken!!!!! You sure are in my prayers. Today would have been Elmer Heindl's 100th birthday. He will pull you through from eternity. You sure helped him.
Miriam
On June 14, 2010...
Tom:
My prayers are with you and your family for strength, patience and courage pre-surgery and for strength and patience for your recovery.
Jane
On June 14, 2010...
Tom,
I will have you in my thoughts Thursday. After work Thursday I will be driving to "B" town to see my sweetheart and Friday Morning we will make the trek to Broome County Office for the "M" license. I am hoping you have recoverd enough to make the trip to our wedding but if not we will be sure to send you some snapshots.
God bless and be good. Becareful what you say to the surgeon. After all he will be in total control
On June 13, 2010...
Tom,
Love reading about your escapades. Never knew men could get that hormonal rush like we women do before we give birth :>). Stay strong, you've read a lot of the journals, I'm sure, and everyone has come through and been able to tell about it. Am sure you'll have some wild dream while you're "under" that you'll tell us about afterwards.
Fran
On June 13, 2010...
Cramps,
Brian and I can’t wait to play on Tuesday! I miss you and Love you!
Baileeboo
On June 13, 2010...
Ode to the Old Goat
Well Dad here comes another life changing event for all of us. Before you under go this surgery I just wanted to tell you a few things. We are all here for you. You have such an amazing family, wonderful friends and a faith that will help guide you through this. Now I am not as good a writer, but I do know that when I picked out our Father/Daughter Dance song for our wedding (Kevin and me) it was the truth. The Wind Beneath My Wings, I know that you were disappointed that I did not choose Butterfly Kisses (LOL) You have always been my hero…..you will continue to be my hero. You always keep a level head in most situations and this in particular one you are handling everything a lot better then some of us. I won’t lie I am worried and scared; I know that you are too. Our strength in love, faith, family and laughter will see us through. I am so happy that you have this Heart Valve community; I must say your entries are very entertaining. Make sure to mind your P’s and Q’s or I will have to pull out some of trucker language you like so much (HONK HONK!) We can’t wait for you to be better. I Love You Daddy!
Bethie
On June 13, 2010...
Hi Tom, You will do great with this surgery and I'm sure you will have all the nurses that take care of you in stitches! This journal idea is fantastic and the picture your little photographer friend took of you is perfect.When you are recovering in that "man cave" of yours use that new laptop to pick out our next relaxing cruise. Love, Sandy
On June 13, 2010...
Grandpa,
I danced really great at my recital and I got flowers. They smell so sweet. I had a lot of fun. We will bring the video to your house so you can watch it.
love, jennavieve
On June 13, 2010...
Hi Dad! I am cracking up reading your journal entries this morning! God bless you for being you and your wonderful sense of humor. We are rooting for you and I know God has this all under control. I will be praying and interceting at all times. Much love!
V
ps - Loved the smoove baby face you have going on! Cuts and all...it works! :) Katie is saying good morning as she stares at your picture! x
On June 13, 2010...
Tom....Barb sent me this link to your journal. Just wanted to let you(and Barb and all of your family)know that I have you in prayer. Especially on the BIG day.
Love and prayers,
Mary Mann
On June 12, 2010...
Hi Tom
You must have had the salesman seeing dollar signs and early retirement. Maybe next time. I'm sure coming home with one major toy was a boon. Did you buy a locking device as well? Might be needed at the hospital.
How is the spirit otherwise? This is a big week? Keeping you in my prayers.
Cheryl, Ontario
On June 12, 2010...
Tom, I would be honored to sign your guest book. You and I have a history longer then you and Barb have been married. If your new friends can not understand your humor, then all I could tell them is watch all the re-runs of the Three Stooges and they may get to know you a little bit better. They need to know that you are a true family man, loving husband and the best friend you could ask for to watch your back and who will be there for you.
God Bless you, and you will be "Back in the Saddle again" real soon, see I can make a funny too.
Your friend and old buddy
Dale
On June 11, 2010...
Hi Tom
Couldn't put the journal away without having a posting from you. You bring some much needed cheer. Thank you.
Cheryl, Ontario
On June 11, 2010...
Hi Tom,
I just wanted to let you know that I continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers and my husband reads your updates to me. Continue to find peace and take care of yourself.
Kimberly
On June 10, 2010...
Hi Tom
Thank you so much for including the Serenity Prayer in its' totality, it is beautiful. Do you think if you were having your surgery during the winter that you would be taking your Snuggie with you?
Fran Z
On June 10, 2010...
Good Evening Tom, Loved the piece about Herman' Hermits and Flo and Eddie.
I saw there Legends show here in Rochester and sang the whole time. Nothing like some good fun non serious music. Glad you are out and about seeing family.Be well.
barb blue
On June 10, 2010...
Hi Tom,
You are way too much. You will recover in good order from all of this for sure. I do want to play on your swing set always. give Barb my love,
Sister Miriam
On June 9, 2010...
Well Tom, I don't know about that Nurse Practioner, but you sure had me laughing. She obviously does not know quick wit and a good sense of humor when she sees it.
I love the picture with you and your snuggie as you said like Linus and his blanket - it fits you to a tee and far be it for anyone to take away your "snuggie". You earned it and you deserve it so snuggie away!
Love,
Mary
On June 9, 2010...
Dad,
I am not sure if waiting to post is a sign of my acquired introverted tendencies as a result of being an apple that did not fall far from the tree, but our discussion last night on the phone although brief was I in a way my own "wake up to go."
Scrolling through your journal as well as your different guestbook posts demonstrate what many of us already know about you. Although having surgery and being out of commission so to speak is not ideal, it is not unlike any other challenging situation you have faced, personally, professionally or spiritually.
With that said, I have no doubt that you will meet this new challenge head-on and succeed with flying colors. In many ways, you thrive in situations of adversity which demonstrates how we all can follow your lead. How a person leads says a lot about who they are. Your commitment to your family, friends and faith will now be there for you as you go through this process. More than you know, the people in your life have relied on you for support, words of encouragement and guidance and it is our time to pay it forward back to you.
So with a week to go, the countdown to your new beginning is on...... When you are done we will celebrate with a KFC Double Down Sandwich......if mom will let us.
All my love,
Matt
On June 9, 2010...
1 ... 2 ... 3 ... TENT!!!! Snuggies are good for all kinds of things :0) Can't wait to see you this weekend!
love, your Conklin grandbabies
On June 9, 2010...
oops! I forgot to sign it...Johnette
On June 9, 2010...
I love your post today. My goodness you give me so much inspiration and you are to freakin' funny. That is what love about you. Can't wait to read the next post.
On June 9, 2010...
Hi Tom, I just wanted to let you know that I to have a bright red snuggie that Andy bought me for Christmas this past year. I used it a few times during some of those few cold winter nights and then it mysterious has disappeard! I found it though, it seems that it wound up in Andy's room. He liked it so much that he used it for the rest of the winter!! I am glad that you guys had a great time at the concert. In fact, my son Mike acturally hung out with Micky Dolenz at Tag's that night. He and a buddy went there not remembering that there was a concert that night and they were sitting at the bar and up walks Mickey and sits right next to Mike. Mike started to chat with him and he bought him a drink, a scotch on the rocks! Must be an old man's drink. Anyways, I will e-mail the picture of them together to you. He even got his autograph, and told him it was for his Mom, how sweet is that. I seriously was thinking about getting dressed and going over, but I thought well....I will preserve my childhood memories as they were! I keep you all in my thoughts everyday, just remember that you have all our support and during your recovery we will do our best to keep YOU laughing! Laughter is one of the best medicines around. I truly beleive that!
Love your sister,
Sandy
On June 9, 2010...
Good Morning Tom
You are a brave man indeed to post your snuggle picture and braver still to have worn that thing in public. You're iconic! Good for you.
Cheryl, Ontario
On June 9, 2010...
Tom - You are in my prayers. I've been following your journal entries and you just make me laugh! Love the snuggie picture.
Brenda
On June 9, 2010...
Tom Good Luck on everything. You are missed here at Highland. Give those doctors and nurses hell.
Please don't ever shave again - only kidding
Rich
On June 8, 2010...
Love the color of that Snuggie. I pegged you for a sedate navy blue or dark brown. LOL
Fran Z
On June 8, 2010...
Hi Tom,
I am so glad you like your Snuggies. I probably should get Henry a couple of those because he is always cold, even in the summer he seems to be cold at times. I think he would love a Snuggie. Me - I don't think so because I am always boiling hot even in the winter.
The concert sounded great. By the way you described the weather it reminded me of the weather at Woodstock. Remember that mess? Anyway, I am so glad you enjoyed it. I bet it was great.
I pray for you every day Tom. I can not imagine the anticipation and anxiety that you must be feeling. I keep thinking that post surgery and while you are recovering, I'm hoping that you can tell the difference from pre-surgery - that is, you say, "Wow, I feel like a new person!"
Barb is one in a trillion huh?
Love,
Mary
On June 8, 2010...
Hi Tom. I've enjoyed reading your journal for several days now - you manage to make it all sound....not so bad, somehow. It does make me smile too, especially the mancave. I'm not scheduled for a while (7/21) & have had the benefit of following the journals of those who have gone before me. Just as a matter of information, I asked my surgeon about storing blood too & his feeling was that I didn't need to. He said there was no shortage in the area blood bank & that it was something he just didn't feel was necessary. I'll be interested to know what yours says on that.
Good luck on the pre-op tomorrow.
Joy V.
On June 8, 2010...
Hi Tom. I hope all goes well with your test. I would like to continue to follow you on your journey as I am not far behind. I will be praying for you and your loved ones.
Kellie (MD)
On June 8, 2010...
Tom,
It sounds like fun. Hope all is going well. Let me know when you are able and we will jam out to some oldschool films ( Stooges).
- Mike L.
P.S. I have two snuggies myself and wouldnt be caught having a photo op with them on.
On June 8, 2010...
Tom, Just been reading through all of of your journal. Sandy just forwarded it to me. I just wish you all the best and love as you are going through this. I know Barb will take the best care of you. If you need us for anything don't hesitate to call now that we are only a couple hours away. We will come and see you when your recovery permits. Rich and I will be thinking about you. fyi- my e-mail is ptelech@live.com
Love, Your sister Pat
On June 8, 2010...
I agree with Fran, are we going to see those pictures of you in your snuddie? glad to see you pushing on and not worrying. Hang in there, talk to you soon. Herman
On June 8, 2010...
Well what can I say. There are good people and then there are the great people. Don't worry some day you will make the list of fantastic people, the next step.
You are with us always in our thoughts and prayers and you are right you could not be in better hands than my beloved sister who not only is my beloved sister but my BFF as well. Not to mention the best nurse practioner ever!
I love the man cave Tom and I don't know I think maybe at some point Barb may let you have your man fridge in your cave - you never know.
Enjoy your day today. Hope you enjoyed the baked macaroni and cheese immensely.
Sure would like to see those jammies.
Love,
Mary