{"id":547,"date":"2008-09-03T05:23:37","date_gmt":"2008-09-03T10:23:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/2008\/09\/03\/10-months-into-recovery-judy-comes-to-the-edge\/"},"modified":"2019-02-26T22:16:57","modified_gmt":"2019-02-27T03:16:57","slug":"10-months-into-recovery-judy-comes-to-the-edge","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/2008\/09\/03\/10-months-into-recovery-judy-comes-to-the-edge\/","title":{"rendered":"At 10 Months Post-Op, Judy Comes To The Edge"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We&#8217;ve talked about &#8220;It&#8221; before&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>It invades our brains before surgery. It clouds our thoughts during recovery. It manifests worry.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;It&#8221; is fear. Or, as I have suggested before <a href=\"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/2008\/08\/05\/restarting-the-heart-after-cardiac-surgery-shock-defibrillator\/\">F.E.A.R. &#8211; an acronym for Fantasized Experiences Appearing Real<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>The funny thing about F.E.A.R., in relation to heart surgery, is that most people incorrectly assume that <em>patient fear<\/em> culminates and terminates on the operating table. As I, or most patients will share with you, that is completely inaccurate.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/Images\/worried-patient.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"375\" height=\"312\" \/><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>For most patients, fear reemerges during the recovery as the patient reanimates their life to match the memory of their own, pre-operative existence. I remember this all too well &#8211; as I relearned how to walk, sleep, drive, run, swim, golf and work after my own,\u00a0heart valve replacement surgery.<\/p>\n<p>I am reminded of this fact when I receive emails and phone calls from patients that are several months (or even years) into their recovery and are still battling F.E.A.R.<\/p>\n<p>For example, Judy just wrote to me, &#8220;Adam &#8211; It is ten months since my surgery. I am writing you because we are planning a trip to Europe. I feel fine and I received permission from the surgeon and cardiologist. Yet, I have all these misgivings about going to Europe after surgery. I worry!!! Can you give me any comforting thoughts? Thanks a million!\u00a0Judy.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>In reading Judy&#8217;s email, I could completely relate to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/2007\/08\/25\/flying-after-open-heart-surgery\/\">fear of long-distance flying after heart surgery<\/a>. Then, I remembered a poem that was quoted to me two decades ago by one of my mentors. I was 17 years old when I first heard this poem, but it has stuck with me ever since.<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;Come to the edge,&#8221; he said.<br \/>\n&#8220;We are afraid,&#8221; they said.<br \/>\n&#8220;Come to the edge,&#8221; he said.<br \/>\nThey came to the edge.<br \/>\nHe pushed.<br \/>\nThey flew.<\/p>\n<p>This is my virtual push to Judy and all the patients reading this. It is time to fly.<\/p>\n<p>Keep on tickin!<br \/>\nAdam<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[62],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-547","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-recovery"],"acf":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/547","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=547"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/547\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=547"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=547"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.heart-valve-surgery.com\/heart-surgery-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=547"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}