By: Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 20:17:53 +0000

Samantha,
When my daughter was 20 months old, she was put on a bypass machine and her heart was stopped for her open heart procedure. I asked alot of questions and wrote down pages of concerns I discussed with her doctors. I know this is your mom and you probably don’t want to discuss this with her, but maybe her surgeon will be willing to talk to you over the phone. Its been over 2 years since my baby’s open heart surgery and I still have the surgeon’s nurse’s direct number on my speed dial. I did alot of research and it eased my mind and heart, but you have to figure out what works for you. I made sure I had an open relationship with most of the staff involved in my daughter’s surgery. I really think that helped me not “freak.” It sounds like your mom has a great source of support from you. If it eases your heart and mind, find that doctor or nurse you can talk to. And write down questions or concerns, ask them for advice on your research. I found that the medical staff was very supportive as long as I informed them of what I was worried about. It did require patience and understanding from me; I had to realize they are busy and it may take a while for them to get back in touch with me. I learned that my husband was the type that wasn’t overly concerned with the process, he just wanted to get our daughter fixed and back home, I was different. I wanted to know everything I could. We hid our fears from her and was very “confident” in front of her, but we shared our fears with each other. You’ll have to find someone you can do that with. I hope you find peace through this and know that there will be lots of prayers for you and your mom. Take Care.

By: Becca Allison

Becca Allison — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 19:44:15 +0000

Samantha,
I know you must be worried right now, but let me just reassure you a little. There are huge numbers of these valve replacements done each year, and the vast majority go just fine. Open heart surgery has been done successfully for over 25 years. I appreciate your wanting to know as much as you can, but be careful not to scare yourself with too much information. I almost did!
A month ago I had my aortic valve replaced. Everything went fine, and I am doing great. A few nights ago I let myself think about what was done during surgery, and it scared me, even though all went well! So don’t dwell on it overmuch!
Best thing you can do for your Mom right now is act confident when you’re with her and try to reassure her it will all go well, because it most probably will. Being upbeat and optimistic really aids in recovery.
We’ll be praying for you and your Mom! Let us know how it goes!
Becca

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